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  • Gay Superheroes In Comics and Movies You Should Know About

    Gay Superheroes In Comics and Movies You Should Know About

    While LGBTQ representation has always been apparent in comics, the same can’t be said about TV and movies. However, we see way more superheroes identifying as LGBTQ in the media today. Marvel and DC writers are pushing harder than ever to write characters representing a more diverse spectrum of sexualities and gender identities.

    We’ve compiled a list of our top most influential LGBTQ superheroes in the Marvel, DC, and other universes below:

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    Wonder Woman

    Wonder Woman has been a DC comic character since the early 1940s. The Amazonian’s backstory places her origins on an island called Themyscira. A nation solely populated by women that bans men from entering.

    William Moulton Marston, a psychologist, created the character. Marston was known for writing stories heavily influenced by sapphic themes, polyamory, and bondage. Much of Wonder Woman’s earliest exploits written by Marston had unmistakable lesbian relationships. As well as other themes that explored her sexuality. However, after Marston died in 1947, DC decided to rework her into a more traditional superhero and downplayed her sexuality.

    Over the years, there have been hints here and there of her original roots as a gay superhero. This all came to a head in 2016 when comic book writer Greg Rucka officially confirmed (or rather, re-confirmed) that she is canonically bisexual, saying, “Nobody at DC Comics has ever said, [Wonder Woman] gotta be straight. Nobody. Ever.”

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    Miss America

    America Chavez, better known as Miss America, is Marvel’s first-ever queer Latinx superhero. Created by writers Joe Casey and Nick Dragotta, she first appeared in a limited comic series titled Vengeance in 2011.

    Her powers include superhuman strength, flight, and the ability to physically kick open star-shaped wormholes into the fabric of reality. Miss America also hails from another dimension called the Utopian Parallel, where she was raised by lesbian parents.

    Miss America’s character gained so much popularity that she got her own comic in 2017 titled “America,” written by Gabby Rivera, a Latin-American writer who herself also identifies as gay. More recently, this year, she appeared as a central character in the movie Doctor Strange in the Multiverse of Madness.

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    Iceman

    Bobby Drake, better known as Iceman, has been part of Marvel’s X-Men since its inception in the 1960s. Created by Stan Lee, the X-Men explored a unique type of superhero storytelling. Born as mutants and disliked by society, the X-Men were created as noble heroes fighting for the very world that shunned them. So, it’s really not surprising – in fact, it’s rather fitting – that there would be a high-profile gay superhero in Marvel’s X-Men lineup.

    Iceman was a founding member of the X-Men alongside Charles Xavier, Angel, Beast, Cyclops, and Marvel Girl. In the All-New X-Men #40 published in 2015, a younger version of Iceman was outed by Jean Grey, who read his mind.

    The storyline itself was perceived by some as problematic because Iceman did not come out on his own terms. However, the situation surrounding Iceman’s coming out is something that mirrors the everyday realities of many people who identify as LGBTQ.

    Meet Northstar: Marvel Comic's First Gay Superhero
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    Northstar

    Northstar, who was the first gay superhero, is not just considered iconic for being openly gay. He was also the first superhero in mainstream American comics to be depicted in a same-sex wedding.

    When Northstar was first created by writers Chris Claremont and John Byrne, he was already written to be gay from the start. However, it was still technically illegal for comics to have any sort of allusions to homosexuality in the 1970s because of the 1954 Comics Code Authority.

    The Comics Code Authority, a government authority that policed comic book content, banned “illicit sex relations” and “sexual abnormalities”. However, there was no specific explanation as to what these terms actually referred to. This loose wording allowed Comics Code Authority administrators to censor just about anything that can be perceived as gay.

    It wasn’t until 1989 that the Comics Code Authority underwent major revisions allowing superheroes like Northstar to come out without Marvel and its writers getting into hot water with the law. And that is exactly what Northstar did in 1992’s Alpha Flight #106, where he officially (and finally!) comes out. Unlike some less-than-transparent censorship authorities, he does not mince his words and outright says, “I am gay.”

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    Batwoman

    Better known as Batwoman, Kate Kane is perhaps the most popular gay superhero in the DC Comics Universe. Much like her male counterpart Batman, Batwoman is also a wealthy heiress who uses her privilege to fight crime and help the city of Gotham.

    However, when she was first introduced in the 1960s, her character was not originally an LGBTQ superhero. The exact reason she was created was to assuage rumors of Batman being gay. Batwoman was written to be the female version of Batman while also serving as his very straight love interest.

    Despite having a character origin that reflected controversial views about LGBTQ identities in the 60s, Batwoman’s character revamps decades later in 2006 features a more hopeful and inclusive arc. DC introduced a totally reworked Batwoman, one who is a lesbian and whose identity isn’t hinged upon problematic projections of another male superhero’s sexuality.

  • The 12 Best Gay Movies You Can Watch Now

    The 12 Best Gay Movies You Can Watch Now

    What are the top gay movies of all time, and what makes them so memorable? We’ve curated a list of 12 incredible LGBTQ+ movies, ranging from the sweetly heartfelt to the campy and proud. Whether you’re looking for a fluffy rom-com or an arty flick, we have something to add to your watch queue.

    We’ve come a long way since the days of Hollywood censorship. Today, LGBTQ+ voices have more opportunities to represent the community in incredible movies, sharing our experiences with bigger audiences. Once hampered by stereotypes and tired plots, LGBTQ+ films now come in a wide range of genres. Queer people are now beginning to see and tell a rich variety of stories on the silver screen.

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    But I’m A Cheerleader (1999)

    In this satirical teen film, Natasha Lyonne plays Megan, a high school cheerleader who gets sent by her parents to the conversion therapy camp True Direction in the hopes of “curing” her lesbianism. During her stay in the camp, she acknowledges that she’s a lesbian. Because of her religious upbringing and rejection of her identity, Megan tries her best to “be heterosexual”.

    Throughout her stay, she falls in love with Graham, another girl at camp. Megan eventually becomes more comfortable with her sexuality, even in the face of her parents’ resistance, and the film ends on a light and hilarious note. Wickedly campy, But I’m A Cheerleader is considered a classic lesbian film and is a popular pick for Pride movies.

    Brokeback Mountain (2005)

    Considered a must-watch gay film, Brokeback Mountain stars Jake Gyllenhaal and Heath Ledger as two cowboys named Jack and Ennis who develop feelings for each other. Though the two try to dismiss their emotions, their relationship quickly becomes romantic and sexual. They both marry women and struggle with their desires to be together, leading to devastating consequences.

    Few lines have expressed conflicted gay yearning quite as powerfully as “I wish I knew how to quit you.” This is just an example of the powerful writing that made Brokeback Mountain such a rich romance and one of the greatest gay movies. Fair warning: have the tissue ready because this one’s a major tear-jerker.

    Portrait Of A Lady On Fire (2019)

    When it comes to showing the complexity and conflict of sapphic love, few films do it as artfully as Portrait Of A Lady On Fire. Set in the 1800s, this French historical romance is directed by Celine Sciamma and follows Marianne, a painter, who is commissioned to do a portrait of the aristocratic Heloise. Heloise is set to be married off to a member of the gentry, and her mother is intent on getting this painting before her wedding.

    As Heloise refuses to pose for portraits, Marianne poses as her hired companion so she can covertly paint her. The pair take daily walks along the coastline, which Marianne first takes as an opportunity to memorize Heloise’s features. But, eventually, the two fall in love and have a lesbian affair. The impossibility of their romance and their defiant love despite the odds make this film a heart-wrenching watch.

    Paris Is Burning (1990)

    Warm, vivacious, and intimate, Paris Is Burning is an inside peek into New York’s drag community during the 1980s. An invaluable documentary, it showcases ball culture and the Black and Latinx communities that celebrated their identity through the period’s flamboyant pageants. It also explores questions of race, poverty, homophobia and AIDS, showing what its members do to survive and thrive in a rich white man’s world.

    In these competitions, contestants are judged by the elegance of their fashion, drag, and dancing. The film’s footage shows the sheer talent that goes into the balls, alongside interviews of prominent members of the ball scene like Angie Xtravaganza and Pepper LaBeija. There’s an incredible diversity of gender presentations in this documentary, as well as an amazing glimpse into the roots of “voguing”.

    Love, Simon (2018)

    Sometimes all we need is something light and comedic to brighten up the weekend, and Love, Simon delivers that refreshing tenderness in spades. This rom-com film stars Nick Robinson as a closeted teen named Simon Spier, who starts exchanging emails with another closeted teen in his school. Both use pseudonyms, with Simon calling himself “Jacques” as he communicates with the mysterious “Blue”.

    Simon is intent on finding out who Blue is as the two bond over their online messages, and much of the movie centers on his quest to uncover Blue’s identity. However, he also gets entangled in the love lives of his friends and wrestles with the fear of being outed. All of these conflicts are carefully written and unraveled charmingly, making this a funny, timeless film to rewatch for instant feels.

    The Handmaiden (2016)

    Adapted from Sarah Waters’ sapphic historical crime novel Fingersmith, The Handmaiden is an action-packed film set in Japan-occupied Korea instead of Victorian England. This psychological thriller is centered on a con man’s plan to steal an heiress’ vast fortune with the help of Sook-hee, a pickpocket.

    Sook-hee poses as her maid and is set to urge the heiress to marry the con man posing as “Count Fujiwara”, but she and the heiress fall in love to devastating results. The story’s unexpected twists and turns will leave you guessing until the end. Visually sumptuous, erotic, and dramatic, it’s an absorbing watch that never devolves into a sexual cliche.

    Happy Together (1997)

    A study of codependence and regret, Wong Kar Wai’s Happy Together was groundbreaking at the time. Particularly for touching on themes of homosexuality. Ho Po-Wing and Lai Yiu-Fai, played by Leslie Cheung and Tony Leung Chiu-Wai respectively, have a tempestuous relationship. Their trip to Argentina is marred by jealousy.

    Though the couple attempt to reconcile, their love can’t overcome suspicion and mutual restlessness. The film is a great exploration of youthful longing and intimacy, beautifully framed with Wong Kar Wai’s trademark stylism. It’s widely considered one of the best gay movies and foreign-language films of all time. Give it a watch if you’re in the mood for a romantic drama.

    Carol (2015)

    Based on the romance novel The Price of Salt, Carol tells the story of a star-crossed lesbian romance between young photographer Therese and Carol, an older woman in the middle of a divorce. Therese has a steady boyfriend, but she seems uncertain about sharing a future with him and becomes drawn to glamorous Carol.

    Therese is not Carol’s first female lover, as she’s shown to have had an affair years ago with one of her friends. However, she’s conflicted about her own feelings for Therese, knowing that the latter will have to fight for custody of her daughter.

    Critics have praised the deft direction of this film and the sensitive, powerful performances of Cate Blanchett and Rooney Mara. It’s a triumphant film about love at first sight and the defiance that keeps this forbidden romance alive in the 1950s.

    Moonlight (2016)

    One of the most critically acclaimed gay films in recent years, Moonlight is the ultimate coming-of-age story. The film is based on an unpublished play by Tarell Alvin McCraney. This semi-autobiographical movie examines the life of the protagonist Chiron in three different stages. It explores his childhood, his teen years, and his early adulthood.

    Throughout the film, Chiron struggles to accept his sexuality. He frequently represses his identity to avoid homophobia and the scrutiny of his peers as he grows up. He also wrestles with his painful history of physical and emotional abuse as well as struggles with intimacy and his journey into drug dealing. It’s a touching portrait of Black masculinity and vulnerability – one that will resonate with many in the community who are still trying to find themselves. For this reason and so many more, Moonlight is easily one of the top gay movies of all time.

    A Single Man (2009)

    A Single Man is easily one of the best gay movies on Netflix now. This Oscar-nominated film starring Colin Firth is a tender exploration of coming to terms with heartbreak. Firth portrays George, a professor who is still dealing with the death of his longtime partner. Grief-stricken George plans to end his life and starts putting his affairs in order before his intended suicide.

    In the film, his friend Charley reminisces and seeks a deeper relationship with him. George also forms an unexpected connection with his student Kenny. This stylish, beautiful film is Tom Ford’s directorial debut. It’s an affecting glimpse into a man trying to hold himself together for his last few days.

    Fire Island (2022)

    A relatively new entry, Fire Island embraces the beloved rom-com format to share the unapologetic happiness of the LGBTQ+ community. This reimagining of Pride and Prejudice starts with a group of friends having a fun, gay vacation in the sun.

    Joel Kim Booster plays Noah, who develops feelings for the rich, aloof lawyer Will played by Conrad Rocamora. The film does an excellent job of fleshing out Asian gay and lesbian characters. It also discusses issues of class and ethnicity within the community. It’s one of the most heartfelt gay movies you can catch now. Pop some corn and save it for weekend watching!

    Hedwig And The Angry Inch (2001)

    While it’s unsurprising for a Broadway musical to go to film, this particular adaptation is a standout. John Cameron portrays the titular Hedwig, an East Berlin glam rocker. Hedwig is left with an “angry inch” after a botched gender reassignment operation.

    Campy and charismatic, Hedwig falls in love with Tommy and becomes his mentor. Tommy, in turn, steals Hedwig’s songs to become a rock star. This leads the spurned musician and her band to shadow his tour. The film explores loneliness, individuality, and learning to own one’s heartbreak. It’s also full of electric performances, making it one of the best LGBTQ+ movies of all time.

    Explore Queer Experiences In These Amazing LGBTQ+ Movies

    The LGBTQ+ experience is a varied, incredible spectrum that intersects with racial, social, and economic lines. Though Hollywood still has some way to go in terms of representation and queer storytelling, much ground has been broken by these top gay movies.

    Watch these films to laugh, cry, and feel closer to the community. There’s much to celebrate and plenty to learn from these different perspectives!

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  • KJ Apa Spooned With a Male Model and Everyone Is Obsessed

    KJ Apa Spooned With a Male Model and Everyone Is Obsessed

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  • 11 Gay Icons You Need to Know About

    11 Gay Icons You Need to Know About

    When you hear the phrase “LGBTQ icon”, who is the first person who comes to mind? Is it one of Generation Z’s representatives rallying for LGBTQ rights on social media or retro gay icons who paved the way for queer celebrities in the 70s and 80s? No matter what you believe makes someone a gay icon, here are eleven people who belong on your list!

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    1. RuPaul (@rupaulofficial)

    Even if you don’t religiously follow RuPaul’s Drag Race, chances are you’ve heard the name before, and for a good reason. In the 1990s, RuPaul achieved peak drag queen fame, becoming one of the most important contemporary gay icons worldwide.
    His show has enabled public conversations about black empowerment, misogyny, and even politics, earning it 24 Emmy wins since 2009.

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    2. WILLOW (@willowsmith)

    No longer just Will Smith’s daughter, WILLOW has made a name for herself within the LGBTQ community, coming out as bisexual and polyamorous in 2019. The young singer has been praised for having open and candid conversations about her sexuality with her mother, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and has since become an icon for many Gen Zers exploring their gender identity.

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    3. George Michael (@georgemofficial)

    Despite passing away in 2016, former Wham! frontman George Michael continues to reign as one of the world’s most famous gay music icons. His televised coming-out announcement in 1998 inspired an entire generation to do the same, banding together to create a louder and prouder community.

    His numerous acts of charity only came to light after his death. Many revealed that the queer singer had donated millions to support various causes, such as children with special needs and the global homelessness epidemic.

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    4. Prince (@prince)

    Known for his androgynous looks and impressive guitar skills, Prince quickly became the ultimate gay music icon without even expecting it. While many assumed that his ambiguous approach to sexuality was an act, Prince encouraged fans to explore the unending facets of the gender spectrum.

    By openly opposing labels and condemning societal expectations of American masculinity, it’s no surprise that Prince was often the subject of controversy but also an inspiration to the gay community.

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    5. Elton John (@eltonjohn)

    After coming out as bisexual in an interview for Rolling Stone in 1976, Elton John’s journey within the LGBTQ community was nothing short of tumultuous. A few years later, he married and was quickly divorced from his husband Renate Blauel. In 2009, his attempt to adopt an HIV-positive child failed because he was an unmarried homosexual man.

    Elton John has since become both a music legend and icon for his perseverance amidst the continued fight for equality.

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    6. Bretman Rock (@bretmanrock)

    Filipino-American social media star Bretman Rock is one of the biggest names on LGBTQ Instagram. Vocal about the queer community and other issues like racism and environmentalism, Bretman Rock is not just your typical influencer. Approachable, hilarious, and passionate, Bretman Rock is often considered a role model for LGBTQ youths.

    In 2021, Bretman became the first openly gay man to grace the cover of Playboy Magazine.

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    7. Amandla Stenberg (@amandlastenberg)

    Known for playing Rue in The Hunger Games franchise, Amandla Stenberg is a bisexual-turned-gay Scream Queen with impressive credits to her name. Now playing queer protagonists in most of her films, Amandla preaches, through her characters, about being your most authentic self.

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    8. Freddie Mercury (@freddiemercury)

    Despite his tragic demise, Queen frontman Freddie Mercury inadvertently became an unwitting “spokesperson” for AIDS. After publicly announcing his illness and succumbing to AIDS, tribute concerts and foundations in his name have raised over $20 million for global AIDS projects.

    Until now, Freddie Mercury remains at the core of the AIDS conversation, enabling the spread of awareness and helping to destigmatize the disease.

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    9. Lil Nas X (@lilnasx)

    As an unapologetically queer black artist, Lil Nas X’s ultimate goal is to “open doors for other queer people to simply exist”. Impressively, he is also the youngest person to hold the record of Billboard’s longest-running number 1 hitmaker, proving the prediction that he would be a one-hit wonder wrong.

    Following the success of “Old Town Road”, Lil Nas X published a “baby registry” that highlighted important LGBTQ rights organizations, encouraging fans to donate to each “little bundle of joy”.

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    10. David Bowie (@davidbowie)

    David Bowie was more than just the godfather of glam rock. He was also a pop culture rebel and a lifeline for the gay community. Since debuting his persona Ziggy Stardust in 1972, David Bowie paved the way for gender expression through fashion and created a marketable image for androgyny.

    While he wasn’t an LGBTQ activist in a traditional sense, David Bowie has often been credited as someone who encouraged listeners to explore the stranger and less-talked-about sides of their personalities and desires.

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    11. Marsha P. Johnson (@mpjinstitute)

    African-American transgender rights activist Marsha P. Johnson made waves in the 1960s and 1970s when she threatened the then-accepted definition of queerness as a mental illness. In 1969, Marsha was among those who stood up to police during the Stonewall Inn raid, resisting arrest and protesting for equal rights for the community.

    The Marsha P. Johnson Institute was born and continues to provide a platform for black transgender people through her legacy.

    The Bottom Line

    Whether active in the 1960s, 1990s, 2000s or now, these gay icons have all played a significant role in LGBTQ history. They have opened doors for community members, encouraging awareness, acceptance, and activism.

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  • How To Say ‘Gay’ In Sign Language

    How To Say ‘Gay’ In Sign Language

    Though American Sign Language (ASL) has been around since the early 1800s, LGBTQ-related words are only becoming more commonplace now. As the desire to develop a deeper understanding of various LGBTQ identities expands, so does sign vocabulary. Knowing how to communicate with deaf LGBTQ peers can be empowering for both parties and increase accessibility. If you want to brush up on your queer signs, here’s how to say “gay” in sign language!

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    What Is “Gay” In Sign Language?

    If you want to say “gay” in sign language, tap the letter “G” on your chin. Alternatively, you can fingerspell (i.e. spell the word letter by letter) “gay” for clarity.

    There are many ways you can use the signed word “gay.” For instance, you can use it to ask about someone’s sexual identity or participate in LGBTQ workshops.

    Other LGBTQ Signs You Should Know

    Now that queer signs are becoming more popular, you should know a few other words.

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    Lesbian

    Make the shape of the letter “L” with your thumb and index finger, tapping onto your chin to indicate the word “lesbian”.

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    Bisexual

    Sign the letter “B” on your chin, then transition into the letter “I” as you move your hand forward to indicate the word “bisexual”.

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    Transgender

    Keep your hand open by your shoulder, then close it as you move your hand toward your chest to indicate the word “transgender.”

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    Queer

    “Queer” is a highly variable sign in the deaf community, so people may not always sign it the same way. One way to sign the word is to keep your hand flat and stretch out your middle finger (a sign known as an “open 8”) to your forehead, moving it to the back of your head.

    Another way to sign the word “queer” is to make an open 8 on your chin, then flick it in an outward movement. Like most other queer signs, you can also fingerspell the word “queer”.

    Why It’s Important To Learn ASL For The LGBTQ Deaf Community

    It may seem obvious why you should learn ASL for the LGBTQ deaf community – it helps you communicate better and allows others to express themselves freely. However, there are other benefits to learning ASL that may not be as evident.

    For instance, it is a little-known fact that deaf LGBTQ youth are at high risk of developing depression due to difficulty communicating with their hearing peers. In a research survey by The Trevor Project, 81% of participants reported experiencing depression, compared to only 39% of hearing respondents. Non-hearing respondents also claimed that environmental factors like discrimination from hearing peers and a lack of familial support contributed to thoughts of suicide.

    The same research survey concluded that the key to improving the deaf LGBTQ community’s well-being was improving accessibility in public spaces and encouraging learning ASL within the broader queer community.

    The Trevor Project also stated that community events should start mandating ASL interpretation and training staff to serve deaf LGBTQ people. More explicitly, it mentioned accessibility and support for deaf people on community websites, especially in promotional materials.

    Another way to support the deaf LGBTQ community is to access available resources online. The Deaf Queer Resource Center (DQRC) is the biggest national nonprofit resource center where people can find the most comprehensive information about deaf-queer communities. Another nonprofit organization to look into is the Rainbow Alliance of the Deaf, established in 1977 to promote deaf education and social welfare within the community.

    The Bottom Line

    If the non-queer deaf community still has a long way to go, the queer deaf community has an even longer journey ahead. Taking the time to learn queer signs and ASL culture is already one big step in the right direction. Start with the hand sign for “gay” and work your way up toward the rest of the LGBTQ dictionary!

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  • The Top 5 Transgender-Friendly Cities in the U.S.

    The Top 5 Transgender-Friendly Cities in the U.S.

    Are there transgender-friendly cities? There have been significant improvements in recent years with the acceptance of queer people in the United States. Progressive laws and the mainstream media’s portrayal of transgender folks have helped. In addition, there is an upward trend of Americans who support marriage equality, access to healthcare and jobs, and equal treatment of LGBTQ+ folks.

    Still, not every city shares this mindset, and trans people face the brunt of this discrimination. Between prejudicial legislation and a societal normalization of transphobia, some places may feel unwelcoming or unsafe for trans people to live in or visit. On the other hand, there are some great, progressive areas where this is  less of an issue. These cities have flourishing communities, local events for queer people, Pride festivities, and politicians who support the trans experience. 

    We’ve rounded up the best US places for transgender dating, safety, working, and well-being.

    San Francisco, California, regularly tops the charts

    San Francisco is typically found at the top of lists ranking LGBTQ-friendly cities. So much so that it’s even affectionately called the “gay capital of the world.” The city isn’t just a trendy hotspot for queer people; it has the history to back it up. SF was the first US city that legalized same-sex marriage. It also was the first city to elect an openly gay official, the trailblazing Harvey Milk. 

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    Even though San Francisco has world-renowned Pride celebrations, from parades to parties visited by over 50,000 people, you can find events celebrating queer and trans folks all year round. In addition, San Franciscans can support their local queer community by shopping at one of many LGBTQ+-owned businesses or strolling down the beloved Rainbow Honor Walk to connect with the heart of the city. 
    San Francisco has as much love and pride for its trans folks as it does for everyone  in the LGBTQ+ community. The Golden City has been ranked highly for healthcare access and community support.

    Additionally, the local government has a department called the Office of Transgender Initiatives, considered the first — and only — trans-led office in the US to advance equity and policies for trans and gender nonconforming people. The city additionally has a Gender Inclusion Policy that strictly prohibits gender identity or expression discrimination in the workplace.

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    New York City, New York, has the history and the community

    It’s not surprising that New York City is on this list of transgender-friendly places in the US. The Big Apple is not only incredibly progressive today, but it’s also the birthplace of many important events in the LGBTQ+ community’s rich history. One of the earliest places with a thriving queer community, NYC was home to protests and riots over gay rights. One of the most famous of these was 1969’s Stonewall Riots in Greenwich Village. Many trace this event, which saw Black trans women at the forefront, to be what incited the modern gay rights movement in the US. 

    Today, New York’s self-identifying queer population is higher than most other places around the country, and over 50,000 people self-identify as transgender — that’s more than any other city’s trans population. 

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    People from around the world flock to New York in June for its annual Pride March, and the city has begun championing trans Pride events in particular, like the Queer Liberation March, which advocates for trans and BIPOC people.  

    The local politics offer laws protecting trans and queer people against discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity in workplaces and in public. For the lesbian-identifying trans folks out there, NYC is also home to Henrietta Hudson, one of three lesbian bars that remain in the city.

    Chicago, Illinois, is considered to be a top progressive city

    Chicago has a booming population of queer people. Not only can it be a fun place for trans dating or socializing, but the local politicians are doing the work to ensure a safe and equal environment for everyone regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. 

    In 2019, Illinois was one of three states to pass a law that designated public single-occupancy restrooms to be gender neutral. In addition, it was one of a handful of states that banned LGBTQ+ “panic” defenses, which have historically been used to justify violence toward gay and trans people. Banning panic defenses has been crucial in reducing attacks on queer and trans folks. 

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    Illinois also was the fifth US state that required schools to teach LGBTQ+ history. The law also mandates that schools’ curricula include positive contributions of transgender, lesbian, gay, and bisexual people.

    Chicago received a perfect score on the Human Rights Campaign’s 2021 Municipality Equality Index scorecard, which evaluates how a municipality’s laws are structured to protect and empower queer and transgender people. The report found that the city provides the highest amount of transgender-inclusive healthcare benefits as an employer. In addition, HRC determined the municipality is committed to treating LGBTQ+ employees equally by offering these benefits and protections.

    Portland, Oregon, is a must-visit in the Pacific Northwest

    Portland, Oregon, is beloved for its quirky culture and personality. There’s always something to do, especially for queer people looking to connect with their community at LGBTQ-friendly events. For example, the Portland Queer Film Festival is a showcase for LGBTQ+ artists and entertainers; you can hang out every month at skating sessions around town; there is plenty of queer and transgender business owner whose shops would love your support. 

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    Portland’s history speaks to its acceptance of those in the queer and trans communities. In 2008, it became the first major city to elect an openly gay mayor, Sam Adams. The community typically shows up loud and proud to Pride events and protests. And the city government itself offers diverse resources for transgender individuals, from vocal training to a coalition for Black trans folks to education on changing one’s gender marker on their driver’s license. 

    Portland is notably close to Seattle, another PNW city favored for being trans-friendly, so it’s an ideal location if you’re looking to travel locally and still find that welcoming quality people know and love in Portland.

    Visit Boston, Massachusetts, for excellent resources and nightlife

    Boston, Massachusetts, rounds out our list of the top 5 transgender-friendly cities in the US. The city is inclusive and diverse, with many trans and gay nightlife and celebratory events. 

    Boston was also given a perfect score from the Human Rights Campaign on its 2021 Municipality Equality Index scorecard. The report, which evaluates how a city is enacting equality policies, found the municipality offers the top trans-inclusive healthcare benefits to LGBTQ+ employees, which shows a commitment on a local level to progressing the queer community. 

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    As for nightlife, Boston’s esteemed Jacques’ Cabaret features regular drag performances and cabaret shows. The establishment has rave reviews about the club’s transgender staff. Other queer bars can be found throughout the city, with the traditionally gay neighborhood concentrated near the South End.
    The city offers compassionate and inclusive resources for transgender community members, with unique providers for transgender veterans and queer Asian Pacific Islanders. Trans people can also find support in the Trans Community of New England’s social club. Still it’s great to remember that transgender dating and social apps are an easy way to connect with people when you’re new to an area or are just looking to expand your community.

    Looking to the future

    As is often the case, major cities in the U.S. can often become islands of progressivism. What sets these cities apart are the local policies that protect trans folks’ access to lifesaving healthcare, employment, and housing. They also enrich the lives of trans folks with vibrant nightlife and trans-inclusive places to socialize. We hope for a future where lists like this can continue to grow. A future where trans folks can simply look around and find that they are already home.

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  • The 16 Most Iconic Lesbian Movies Of All Time

    The 16 Most Iconic Lesbian Movies Of All Time

    According to GLAAD, the preeminent LGBTQ+ media watchdog, queer representation in TV is at an all-time high. In the last five years, we’ve also seen a steady stream of films with LGBTQ+ leads and positive storylines.  Many coming out of big studios and streaming giants like Netflix and Hulu.

    To celebrate the progress we’ve made and honor the artists and filmmakers that have made it all possible, we highlight some of the best lesbian movies ever made. This list includes sapphic movies with bisexual, pansexual, and queer characters as well.

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    1. Desert Hearts (1985)

    Before Brokeback Mountain, there was Desert Hearts, a 1985 romantic drama about a Columbia University professor named Vivian (Helen Shaver) who travels to Reno to speed up her divorce proceedings. There, she meets and falls in love with Cay (Patricia Charbonneau), an adventurous and unpredictable sculptor.

    Before Desert Hearts, no wide release film had portrayed sapphic love in such a nuanced and positive light. Today, the film is considered a cult classic in queer cinema and is recognized for paving the way for future LGBTQ+ films.

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    2. The Incredibly True Adventures Of Two Girls In Love (1995)

    Featuring a pre-L Word Laurel Holloman as Randy, a tomboyish high schooler who falls in love with new girl Evie (Nicole Ari Parker), this coming-of-age film is based on the age-old premise that opposites attract. At a time when lesbian films often had some kind of dark and tragic element to them, The Incredibly True Adventures Of Two Girls In Love was a warm, funny, and refreshing film that stood out among its peers.

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    3. The Watermelon Woman (1996)

    This meta-romantic dramedy tells the story of video store clerk Cheryl (director Cheryl Dunye), who embarks on a quest to track down an Old Hollywood “mammy” actress known as “The Watermelon Woman” for a documentary film project.

    Aside from having a Black lesbian actress in the lead role (Cheryl as a fictional version of herself), The Watermelon Woman is also the first full-length film to have been directed by an out Black lesbian.

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    4. But I’m A Cheerleader (1999)

    Directed by Jamie Babbit, But I’m A Cheerleader is a satirical teen comedy about a cheerleader (Natasha Lyonne) who gets sent to a conversion therapy camp after her parents suspect her of being a lesbian. With stellar performances from Lyonne, Clea DuVall, and Melanie Lynskey, a hilarious cameo by RuPaul (yes, that RuPaul), and a story that’s got a lot of heart underneath its campy exterior, But I’m A Cheerleader should be on every gayby’s list of lesbian movies to watch.

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    5. Saving Face (2004)

    Sixteen years before she released The Half Of It, another iconic sapphic movie, Alice Wu directed Saving Face. The rom-com/drama revolves around a young Chinese-American surgeon named Wil (Michelle Krusiecl) and Vivian (Lynn Cheng), a ballet dancer. Having grown up in the tight-knit Chinese community of Flushing, New York, Wil struggles to maintain her burgeoning romance with Vivian while keeping up with the expectations of her traditional family.

    Before the film’s release, The Joy Luck Club was the only Hollywood movie that featured a primarily Chinese-American cast and narrative. Praised for its accurate, funny, and nuanced portrayal of Asian-American life, Saving Face is an excellent example of what happens when LGBTQ+ people of color get the opportunity to tell their own stories.

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    6. D.E.B.S. (2004)

    As far as lesbian movies on Netflix go, D.E.B.S. is certainly the most unique. Instead of your typical coming-of-age/romance/family drama, D.E.B.S. is like if Charlie’s Angels and Austin Powers had a lesbian baby. The film follows Amy (Sara Foster), a young woman recruited into the secret spy academy D.E.B.S. (that’s Discipline, Energy, Beauty, Strength), and the supervillain Lucy Diamond (Jordana Brewster), whom Amy is tasked with taking down. That catch? They end up falling in love.

    Despite being a critical and box office failure at the time of its release, D.E.B.S. has gained a cult following over the years.

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    7. Imagine Me & You (2005)

    Imagine Me & You is a British romantic comedy starring Piper Perabo as Rachel, a new bride, and Luce, a florist. The pair develop an undeniable connection at Rachel’s wedding and spend the rest of the film trying to resist their feelings for one another. Imagine Me & You might just be the very definition of sapphic yearning but ultimately, this film is just a feel-good, fluffy, low-stakes rom-com that you can watch over and over again.

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    8. Pariah (2011)

    Dee Rees’ debut film tells the story of Alike (Adepero Oduye), a 17-year-old Brooklynite who struggles to come to terms with her butch identity. Reeling from her mother’s inability to accept her sexuality and the pain of her first heartbreak Alike finds respite in poetry.

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    9. Carol (2015)

    Based on Patricia Highsmith’s 1952 novel The Price of Salt, Carol follows a young shopkeeper and aspiring photographer named Therese (Rooney Mara) who catches the eye of Carol (Cate Blanchett), an older soon-to-be divorcee. Needing a break from a bitter custody battle for her daughter Rindy, Carol invites Therese on a road trip over the holidays where their love blossoms.

    Equal parts heart-wrenching and hopeful, with impeccable cinematography and a beautifully adapted script, Carol is often regarded as one of the best LGBTQ+ films of all time. The film has received over 100 awards and nominations, including six Oscar nominations for Best Actress, Best Supporting Actress, Best Cinematography, Best Adapted Screenplay, Best Costume Design, and Best Original Score.  No list of lesbian movies is complete without Carol.

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    10. The Handmaiden (2016)

    Park Chan-wook’s The Handmaiden is a dark and eerie adaptation of Sarah Waters’ acclaimed historical crime novel Fingersmith. The erotic psychological thriller features numerous twists and turns, so it’s best we keep our plot description as sparse as possible.

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    11. Disobedience (2017)

    Disobedience is, like many LGBTQ+ films, about forbidden love. The story follows Ronit (Rachel Weisz), a former Orthodox Jew who was ostracized from her community years ago for being with another woman. Ronit returns to her community following the death of her father, but, soon after, she learns that her former lover Esti (Rachel McAdams) has married their childhood friend Dovid (Alessandro Nivola). What ensues is an emotional tale of love, faith, and freedom.

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    12. The Favourite (2018)

    In this delirious tale of power, politics, and womanhood in 18th century Britain, cousins Sarah Churchill (Rachel Weisz) and Abigail Masham (Emma Stone) court the childish and unpredictable Queen Anne. A monarch who has lost interest in governing her country. But the two only vie for the queen’s favoritism out of their own selfish interests. The result is a black comedy bursting with frenetic energy. Needless to say, it’s a wild ride from start to finish.  A must-see lesbian movie.

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    13. Rafiki (2018)

    When Rafiki premiered at Cannes in 2018, it became the first Kenyan film to be screened at the festival, opening doors for African filmmakers everywhere.

    The story is almost reminiscent of Romeo and Juliet. Kena (Samantha Mugatsia) and Ziki (Sheila Munyiva), daughters of political rivals in a local election in Nairobi, have to figure out how to navigate their relationship amid their parents’ political aspirations and the fact that homosexuality is illegal in Kenya.

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    14. Wild Nights With Emily (2018)

    Directed by Madeleine Olnek, Wild Nights With Emily is loosely based on the life of American poet Emily Dickinson. Wild Nights With Emily is a laugh-out-loud funny reimagining of the life of one of America’s most misrepresented and misunderstood poets.

    The film explores Emily’s (Molly Shannon) decades-long relationship with her best friend/neighbor/sister-in-law Susan Gilbert. And the circumstances that led to the erasure of Gilbert’s existence in the poet’s published works.

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    15. Portrait Of A Lady On Fire (2019)

    While we can’t quite explain why there are so many lesbian period dramas, we can tell you which ones are well worth the watch. In Portrait of a Lady On Fire, director Celine Sciamma creates a tender, slow-burn romance between painter Marianne (Noémie Merlant) and her subject, bride-to-be Héloïse (Adèle Haenel). One that ends up being a masterful exploration of what it means to want and to be wanted, to love and to be loved. Warning: the ending will make you cry.

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    16. The Half Of It (2020)

    The Half of It is a modern-day retelling of Cyrano de Bergerac where a kind, but rather dense, footballer named Paul (Daniel Diemer) employs the help of introverted, straight-A student Ellie (Leah Lewis) to write love letters to his crush, Aster (Alexxis Lemire). Initially taking on the task to help her father make ends meet, Ellie slowly realizes that the more she gets to know Aster, the more she develops feelings for her.

    The Half of It was well-received by critics for its deft handling of a teenage coming-of-age story. As well as, director Alice Wu’s ability to communicate the struggles of a young, sapphic Asian-American in a small town.

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    The Bottom Line

    As we come to the end of our list of iconic lesbian movies, we hope you’ve enjoyed the journey. We know there are so many more amazing films that could have made the list. Just consider this as your first introduction to sapphic cinema. From laugh-out-loud comedies to heart-wrenching dramas, these movies represent the myriad of experiences faced by the LGBTQ+ community.

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  • Was Achilles From The Iliad Gay Or Straight?

    Was Achilles From The Iliad Gay Or Straight?

    Achilles is known as the greatest warrior of the Greeks in Homer’s epic The Iliad. Yet this fierce fighter was driven to despair when his cousin Patroclus was killed. He grieved so deeply that scholars have wondered if the two companions were lovers – this question has endured, even popping up in modern film and book adaptations. Was Achilles bisexual, gay, or straight?

    Keep reading to learn more about this Greek fictional figure and how his sexuality has been portrayed in other works.

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    Who Is Achilles?

    Achilles is one of the greatest heroes of the Trojan War, depicted in The Iliad as a fearsome, near-unbeatable warrior. He was the son of the Greek king Peleus and the sea nymph Thetis. Because of his mother, he gained power beyond other mortals.

    When he was just a baby, Thetis attempted to make him immortal by bathing him in the River Styx. She dipped his entire body in the water, which blessed every part it touched with invincibility. However, she held him by his heel, leaving that part vulnerable. This is where we get the term “Achilles heel.”

    Thetis prophesied that Achilles would either die young with a glorious legacy or live a long, obscure life. Achilles chose the first fate and decided to join the other Greek kings in the Trojan War. He and his Myrmidon warriors were feared on the battlefield. But he withdrew when King Agamemnon took Briseis, his slave girl, from him. Seeing her as his rightful “battle prize”, he refused to fight alongside the other Greek forces, even when they were being destroyed by the Trojans.

    He refused despite attempts to appease him, including the return of Briseis and other tributes. His closest companion, Patroclus, decided to put on Achilles’ armor to fool the Trojans and rally the men into battle. Patroclus was killed by Hector of Troy, and the distraught Achilles burst his way onto the battlefield for a roaring rampage of revenge. Achilles then killed Hector and even dragged his body around the walls of Troy.

    The warrior’s death varies across different Greek stories. The prevailing version is that Paris shot him in his vulnerable heel, killing him. Others have depicted Achilles surviving the war and living on an island at the mouth of the Danube.

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    Was Achilles Gay?

    We’re not sure if Achilles is gay, but scholars have given different interpretations based on Homer’s epic poem, The Iliad. In The Iliad, it’s clear that Achilles was very close to his childhood friend and cousin Patroclus. In one book of the poem, Achilles even wished that all the soldiers from both sides would perish so that he and Patroclus could take Troy together. Their closeness is further hinted at when Achilles hears that Hector killed Patroclus.

    Achilles laments, “My dear comrade’s dead – Patroclus – the man I loved beyond all other comrades, loved as my own life – I’ve lost him.” Achilles holds an elaborate funeral for Patroclus, who appears as a ghost, and tells him, “Never bury my bones apart from yours, Achilles, let them lie together.” Later Greek writings were more explicit, portraying them as lovers in a pederastic relationship.

    However, Achilles is also implied to be attracted to women in other literary works and sections of The Iliad. One story of Achilles’ youth mentions that he has an affair with Deidamia, the daughter of King Lycomedes. Achilles also refused to help the Greeks because the slave girl Briseis was taken from him, hinting at his attachment to her.

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    Achilles’ Sexuality Has Been Both Straightwashed And Reclaimed

    Despite the ambiguity of Achilles’ sexuality in ancient literary texts, Hollywood decided to nix any exploration of his identity in 2004’s Troy. In the film, Achilles is presented as an admired brute, and Patroclus appears to have very limited influence on his emotions and actions.

    In this version, Achilles seems to fight solely for glory. When Patroclus is killed, the film completely skips over the intimate nature of his grieving. He appears to be spurred into action against Hector by pride and wrath, not by loyalty to his beloved friend. Troy’s storyline is heteronormative and completely glosses over any sexual or romantic implications between the two.

    Madeleine Miller’s The Song of Achilles goes in a completely different direction from the straightwashed movie. The book shows a complex, passionate love story between Achilles and Patroclus. When Patroclus dies in the book, Achilles throws himself over Patroclus’ corpse and weeps profusely, refusing to have his corpse burnt for fear of being parted from him. When he finally relents, he keeps a lock of Patroclus’ hair with him as a memento.

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    Is Achilles Gay? The Bottom Line

    It’s not clear if Achilles is gay or bisexual in The Iliad. The mystery has captivated creators, opening the door to numerous interpretations.

    Some think he’s bisexual, while others think he’s gay because of his attachment to Patroclus. Other versions completely gloss over this and portray him as heterosexual. Ultimately, it’s important to remember that Achilles is a fictional character upon whom writers have projected their ideas over the centuries.

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  • Here’s Why The Babadook Is Considered A Gay Icon

    Here’s Why The Babadook Is Considered A Gay Icon

    What makes a queer icon? Why are the likes of Judy Garland, Lady Gaga, and Cher revered by the LGBTQ community? According to Nylon, those who achieve such status are often people who display “extraordinary resilience under scrutiny”. They also deviate from the status quo, push the boundaries of gender and sex, and speak truth to power. Gay icons are, for the most part, underdogs whom all queer people can relate to on some level.  So what’s up with the Babadook being a gay icon?

    It’s befuddling to see a fictional monster such as the Babadook, a shadowy figure with menacing white eyes and a maniacal grin, crowned an icon by members of the LGBTQ community. At least the chronically online ones, that is.

    Here, we take a deep dive into the origins of the gay Babadook lore. We will explore how the Babadook became the LGBTQ icon that he is today.

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    Baba-who?

    The Babadook is a creepy humanoid that lurks in the dark and terrorizes the mother-son protagonists Amelia and Sam in Jennifer Kent’s 2014 horror film The Babadook. Amelia, a depressed widow, is overwhelmed with the grief of losing her husband and the task of raising a difficult child alone. Although sweet and caring, six-year-old Sam exhibits erratic behaviors stemming from the fear of an imaginary monster.

    Unable to sleep one night, Sam picks out a book for Amelia to read, Mister Babadook. The book tells the story of a pale, cloaked figure in a top hat called Mister Babadook. The book gets increasingly dark with every page until it ends with the words, “once you see what’s underneath…you’re going to wish you were dead.”

    Soon after, Sam becomes even more erratic and Amelia begins to see and hear strange things around the house. The Babadook uses the book to taunt Amelia further. He threatens to get stronger and deadlier the more she denies his existence.

    The Babadook, which was met with universal acclaim, is considered one of the best horror films to come out of this “still very new century”. The film is an exploration of the difficulties of motherhood. As well as, the dangers of refusing to confront your own demons. Most critics say that Mister Babadook stands as a metaphor for Amelia’s grief. Which, as the monster points out, will only get stronger the more she denies it.

    How The Babadook Became A Gay Icon

    So, how did a monstrous manifestation of a widow’s grief turn into a beloved queer icon? Like many memes on the internet, the “Babadook is gay” meme started as an innocuous joke on Tumblr. A user named ianstagram was one of the first to joke about the Babadook’s orientation. They said, “Whenever someone says the Babadook isn’t openly gay it’s like?? Did you even watch the movie???”

    Like with most jokes on Tumblr, other users continued building on the joke. And expanding the lore by pointing to “evidence” that the Babadook is gay. “I mean he created a pop-up book of himself for the drama of it all,” said one user. Seemingly (but also definitely jokingly) frustrated by commenters shutting down his theory, ianstagram responds by saying, “It may be ‘just a movie’ to you but to the LGBT community the Babadook is a symbol of our journey.”

    Why Tumblr Is Where It All Started

    If all of this makes no sense to you, you have to understand that “discourse” like this is part and parcel of what made Tumblr such an interesting place to be for young, queer people online. In its heyday, Tumblr was a melting pot of aspiring film critics, pop culture analysts, and social justice advocates. It was also one of the few places online where young, queer people could convene and discuss their struggles with gender and sexuality in a place that felt safe.

    And yes, there were also a lot of jokes. Put all that together and you get ianstagram’s Babadook thread, which Vox summed up as “fantastic trolling, a post written to get an earnest reaction from people who truly believe in discussing the merits of The Babadook within an entertaining and slightly absurd new context”.

    A screenshot of the exchange was later shared on Twitter and, soon after, a meme was born. One of the most popular gay Babadook memes is a screenshot of a Netflix menu wherein The Babadook was listed under the LGBT movies category. Users took this to mean that Netflix was acknowledging the Babadook’s queer status, although Netflix never confirmed whether this actually happened or if the photo was just edited.

    But Why The Babadook?

    The horror genre has had a long history of queer-coding villains. From the transgender serial killers in Alfred Hitchcock’s Psycho and Jonathan Demme’s Silence of the Lambs to the obsessive housekeeper in the 1940 film Rebecca.

    Hollywood’s Hay’s Code prohibited films made between 1934 and 1968 from portraying “obscenity”.  This included images of sex, drugs, and homosexuality. Which kept filmmakers from representing queer characters on film. As such, directors would use subtext to depict queer characters and stories.  Often representing them as misunderstood monsters who were condemned by society for their “depravity”. This was done to circumvent the censors and portray the LGBTQ experience at a time when mainstream society deemed queerness taboo.

    Today, horror film directors carry on that tradition, unwittingly or not. And even if Mister Babadook was not purposefully queer-coded by the filmmakers, some might argue that the character lends itself to multiple queer readings.

    For one, Mister Babadook is designed as a rather flamboyant character, with his top hat, heavy makeup, and long, spindly hands. He’s also trapped in a closet, itching to break free – an excellent metaphor for the queer experience, if there ever was one.

    Eren Orbey of The New Yorker wrote that the Babadook’s “new fabulousness seems to align, quite reasonably, with queer readings of better-known beasts such as Frankenstein and Freddy Krueger”.

    “Like those other misunderstood figures, he originated in anonymity, shunned by the traditional folks whom his presence threatened…Fearing the creature’s transgressive influence – his shameless oddity, his aggressive manner – [the film’s mother character] attempts to burn his manifesto, only to learn that attempting to get rid of the Babadook actually enlivens him,” wrote Orbey. “His book reappears on her doorstep, replete with the brash self-assertion of most coming-out anthems.”

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    What The Babadook’s Creator Thinks Of Her Character’s Queer Legacy

    Kent, the film’s director, never really sought to portray her monster as gay. After all, the Babadook was meant to be a manifestation of a widow’s grief and her worst fears about motherhood come to life.

    But when asked to comment on the Babadook’s queer icon status by horror movie site Bloody Disgusting, Kent said that she “loved that story”. “I think it’s crazy and just kept him alive,” she added. “I thought, ‘Ah, you bastard.’ He doesn’t want to die, so he’s finding ways to become relevant.”

    And isn’t that exactly what the gay Babadook icon would do?

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    The Bottom Line

    Though memes come and go, the gay Babadook meme seems to have cemented the monster’s status as a modern queer hero. Whether you like it or not. Remember, the more you deny his existence, the stronger he’ll get.

    So, do you think the Babadook is an LGBTQ icon? Or do you think it’s a ridiculous reach that takes away from the essence of Kent’s original message?

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  • The Ultimate Guide To Gay Travel In Seattle

    The Ultimate Guide To Gay Travel In Seattle

    Are you looking to explore one of the most gay-friendly cities in the Pacific Northwest? Then a trip to Seattle is a must! The Emerald City is home to a vibrant LGBTQ community and has plenty of can’t-miss attractions, nightlife spots, and events for gay travelers.

    This guide will provide all the information you need to plan the perfect gay Seattle getaway. From tips on where to stay and what to do during the day to the best bars and clubs for nighttime fun, we have you covered.

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    Is Seattle LGBTQ-Friendly?

    Seattle isn’t just a Big Tech destination rife with grunge music and Starbucks coffee shops. It also boasts a notably large LGBTQ community and, in 2013, overtook San Francisco as the American city with the most gay and lesbian households at 2.6%.

    Seattle was among the first U.S. cities to legalize gay marriage in 2012. Before legalization, Seattle supported civil partnerships since 2007. In 2016, Seattle banned conversion therapy on minors and, in 2017, passed legislation against conversion therapy on any individual regardless of age.

    Of all the gay neighborhoods in Seattle, Capitol Hill is the place to be for recreational activities and LGBTQ events. Gay bars, clubs, and entertainment centers are also peppered throughout the city.

    LGBTQ Events In Seattle

    The Seattle gay area is always bustling with events catering to the LGBTQ community. Regardless of when you visit, there is sure to be an LGBTQ event you can attend.

    Seattle Pride

    Since the 1970s, Seattle has hosted one of the largest-scale Pride celebrations on the West Coast. If you find yourself in Seattle in June, join PrideFest, which welcomes over 300,000 attendees annually. Witness performances from drag regulars, renowned international DJs, and even television stars.

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    Pride Speaks

    Spearheaded by Seattle Pride, Pride Speaks is a monthly function that tackles the important issues impacting the LGBTQ community. Past events have covered topics like mental health and disabilities, hosted by Aleksa Manila and Sonatina Sanchez. Event-goers can even pitch topics and recommend speakers.

    Seattle Boylesque Festival

    April travelers should sign up to witness the magic of the Seattle Boylesque Festival, which features Queer Chippendale-esque burlesque dancers in hyper-femme lingerie and butt tassels. Think of this weekend show as a cross between stripteasing, circus acts, and a dash of comedy.

    Seattle Queer Film Festival

    Since 1996, the Seattle Queer Film Festival has been the largest of its kind in the Pacific Northwest. Occurring every October, attending this award-winning festival is an excellent way to get your fill of LGBTQ movements, lesbian love tales, coming-of-age films, and other indie darlings.

    Where To Stay

    Considering how LGBTQ-friendly Seattle is, you’ll be hard-pressed not to find an LGBTQ-welcoming hotel or resort. Gay Seattle vacations are not complete without a stay at one of these accommodations.

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    MOXY Seattle Downtown

    1016 Republican St.

    Located in the South Lake Union neighborhood is MOXY Seattle Downtown, where guests are greeted with complimentary cocktails. MOXY’s architecture and design are entirely local, with fixtures from Seattle-based designers, and creative – the environment is chock-full of collaborative spaces like the Plug-and-Meet gathering area. It’s also just a stone’s throw from the West Coast’s largest gathering of food trucks!

    Kimpton Hotel Vintage Seattle

    1100 5th Ave.

    Kimpton’s group of hotels is the first major chain to adopt LGBTQ-positive policies and has since become a go-to for LGBTQ travelers. All Kimpton accommodations are partnered with the Trevor Project, a crisis resource for LGBTQ youths. The Kimpton Hotel Vintage Seattle is decked out with a contemporary design and is famous for its nightly wine tastings.

    Hotel Max

    620 Stewart St.

    A destination where artists, photographers, musicians, and creators can mingle, Hotel Max is not just any hotel – it’s a boutique experience. Known for its original Andy Warhol lobby, Hotel Max has plenty of attitude as well as quirky signature amenities and activities, such as craft beer tastings and loanable bicycles.

    Where To Eat

    You don’t have to deck yourself out in rainbow attire to show your appreciation for Seattle’s LGBTQ community. Why don’t patronize some of these delectable destinations instead?

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    The Flora Bakehouse

    1511 S Lucile St.

    Transgender business owner Nat Stratton-Clarke is the mastermind behind The Flora Bakehouse, a haven for vegetarian diners who love a sweet treat. Proceeds from its signature rainbow tree cookies benefit Camp Ten Trees, a missionary group that supports LGBTQ youth and their families. Buying a slice of rainbow cake will also benefit the Trans Justice Funding Project.

    Cupcake Royale

    2052 NW Market St.

    Known for its signature Gay Cupcake, Cupcake Royale does not shy away from LGBTQ-inspired flavors. It’s also Seattle’s premier cupcake bakery and cafe, serving sweet, made-from-scratch creations daily. Cupcake Royale is big on sustainability, so expect to find fresh, local, and organic ingredients in every cupcake.

    Julia’s On Broadway

    300 Broadway E

    Julia’s on Broadway is Seattle’s longest-running drag show, pairing their Le Faux and Throwback Brunch shows with a full multi-course menu. Enjoy hysterical antics over a delicious plate of pork tenderloin, and top it all off with a Nola Bloody Mary!

    Where To Party

    When scouting gay bars in Seattle, Capitol Hill is the place to start. Unlike bigger party city destinations, there is no peacocking and gatekeeping in Seattle – just head into any establishment and get to mingling.

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    CC Attle’s

    1701 E Olive Way

    For over 20 years, CC Attle’s has stood as Seattle’s ultimate gay bar. It’s laid-back, open until the wee hours of the morning, and hosts weekly events.

    Every first Saturday of the month is Fetish Night, where partygoers can witness kink demonstrations and bare it all in their favorite fetish gear. Underwear Night happens every third Saturday where everyone is encouraged to attend in their cutest undies!

    Madison Pub

    1315 Madison St.

    Sports fanatics should visit Madison Pub, a unique gay sports bar where you can talk and play. Cheer the Maulers and Pilots on while playing a game of pool or darts with other MLMs. If you want to throw it back, Madison Pub also has dedicated arcade and pinball machines.

    Pony

    1221 E Madison St.

    If a gay dive bar is more your scene, Pony is the place to be. It occupies a 1930s gas station building and pays tribute to the Castro bars of the ‘70s. Its west-facing patio houses a retractable roof and fire gas pit where bargoers can sit around and mingle. For an all-night Happy Hour, hit Pony up on a Wednesday!

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    The Wildrose Bar

    1021 E Pike St.

    Formerly known as The Wildrose Tavern, The Wildrose Bar is a woman-owned lesbian bar that has been operating since 1984. Wildrose Karaoke happens every Wednesday night and Taco Tuesday is particularly well-attended.

    The Cuff

    1533 13th Ave.

    The Cuff Complex is one of the biggest gay clubs in Seattle, with four bars, an outdoor patio, and a massive dance floor. Depending on when you decide to visit, you might run into famous Seattle fetish groups like the Seattle Men in Leather, Northwest Bears, and Border Riders MC.

    Other Fun Things To Do In Seattle

    Seattle is a top tourist destination for a reason – it’s rich with attractions that make every single day of your LGBTQ Seattle vacation exciting! Here are a few activities that belong on your itinerary.

    Shop At LGBTQ-Owned Establishments

    Do you want to support local queer entrepreneurs? Drop by these LGBTQ-owned shops!

    • Coopers Optique (Lower Queen Anne): Owned by husbands Kevin and Zac Cooper, this boutique shop sells high-fashion eyewear you won’t see anywhere else.
    • Doghouse Leathers (Capitol Hill): If you’re looking to add to your kink collection, Doghouse Leathers sells everything from sex staples to adventurous adult toys.
    • Crystallography Gems (Georgetown): Self-proclaimed “weirdo” Michelle Ferris specializes in crystals and metaphysical tools. Plus, Crystallography Gems is staffed by an all-LGBTQ team!
    • Doll Parts (West Seattle): Gender and size-inclusive shoppers will find everything they need at Doll Parts, a West Seattle vintage clothing boutique.

    Go To A Wine Tasting

    Nature lovers should book a wine tasting at Snoqualmie Falls, Washington’s most popular natural attraction. Get your very own wine chauffeur and travel over Lake Washington to escape the hustle and bustle of the city. Visit independent, family-run wineries or world-class chateaus across Seattle.

    Brave The Space Needle

    400 Broad St, Seattle

    You can’t book a trip to Seattle without experiencing the renowned Space Needle! Built in 1962, the Space Needle has been drawing in tourists for decades. Take a Sky High Selfie 605 feet off the ground or enjoy the Loop Lounge’s revolving glass floor.

    Go On A Food Tour At Pike Place Market

    85 Pike St, Seattle

    Food enthusiasts who have diverse palettes will love a tour at the Pike Place Market. Feast on local delicacies like crab cakes and doughnuts, and fill your basket with everything from cheeses to chocolates. Early birds can even go on a special behind-the-scenes tour at this historic attraction.

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    View Exhibits At The Museum Of Pop Culture

    325 5th Avenue N, Seattle

    The Museum of Pop Culture is a non-profit organization dedicated to contemporary Seattle and general American culture. Popular exhibits include the visual histories of hip-hop, punk, and rap music, commentaries on the indie game revolution, and tributes to music legends like Jimi Hendrix, Nirvana, and Pearl Jam.

    The Bottom Line

    The Seattle gay scene is always bustling, so it’s no wonder it’s a popular LGBTQ tourist destination. Whether you want to explore the thriving club scene or simply indulge in America’s natural beauty, you can be loud and proud when you vacation here.

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