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Sam Smith Wants to Be a Leader in the Gay Community
Sam Smith is singing a different tune after saying he “wasn’t trying to be a spokesperson” for the gay community. After breaking into mainstream music with his 2014 album In The Lonely Hour, Smith wasn’t sure about his new leadership role in the gay community.
As an openly gay man, media outlets often sell Smith on his sexuality instead of his hit songs. In an effort to focus on his album, Smith seemed to separate himself as the appointed “spokesperson” for gay guys, until now.
After a year, Smith decided he’s willing to take on the title as an official spokesperson.
“I want to be a spokesperson. I want to be a figure in the gay community, who speaks for gay men. I sell records in countries where gay men get killed and that’s a big thing for me, because maybe one person in that country will pick up my album, realize it’s by a gay artist, and it might change their opinion…
I’m a gay man who came out when I was 10 years old, and there’s nothing in my life that I’m prouder of…. I didn’t want the album to appeal to just one community, I wanted it to appeal to all of them. I wanted anyone, gay or straight, to be able to relate to me singing about men, like I was able to relate to Stevie Wonder or John Legend singing about girls.”
Congrats on the success, Sam. We know you’re going to do great things for LGBTs.
H/T: Queerty
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Troll Asks Gus Kenworthy If He’s The ‘Man or Woman’ in Relationships
If you didn’t know, Olympic freestyle skier Gus Kenworthy came out in an interview with ESPN, and trolls are already harassing him on Twitter. Prexton Vice (aka a Twitter Troll) tweeted the Olympian and asked, “Are you the man or the woman in the relationship? That’s all I need to know right now.”
Are you the man or the woman in the relationship? That’s all I need to know right now. https://t.co/9dvbwLBaCX
— Prexton Vice (@MmmPrexton) October 24, 2015
Kenworthy responded eloquently and said, “In a relationship I am the man. As is the other man. I’m gay. Not trying to emulate a heterosexual relationship.” Basically, he kicked the troll in the face and shut him down faster than a slopestyle skier competing in the Olympics.
In a relationship I am the man. As is the other man. I’m gay. Not trying to emulate a heterosexual relationship. https://t.co/AJwyskECWf — Gus Kenworthy (@guskenworthy) October 24, 2015
Slay, Gus. Slay.
H/T: Instinct
Man Apologizes 20 Years After Harassing Gay Couple
In 1993 a 17-year-old young man publicly shamed a gay couple in front of his church. After more than 20 years, he apologized in a heartfelt and sincere letter on Craigslist. The anonymous ex anti-gay heckler, describes the couple as “relaxed and happy.”
The letter reads:
Dear young gay couple in 1993,
You were sitting together on the curb near the entrance of Worlds of Fun. I was walking in with my church youth group. I was 17 and bigoted, taught that you were wrong and sinful. You were happy, sitting close, having fun, smooching a little, probably waiting for some friends. We walked in as a group, excited, adventurous, privileged. My friend pointed you out with a gasp of surprise and disgust. I looked over to see you together, relaxed and confident, and I said out loud, “Ewww gross.”
I don’t remember your reaction and I don’t know if you heard me. As we walked away I felt a prick of shame. Outwardly I had acted as if it was you who should be ashamed, but for over 20 years it has been me who carries this shame. I’m writing this today to apologize for my behavior.
Dear young gay couple in 1993, I am so sorry. I am so sorry I treated you as second class citizens and ruined that sweet moment you were having. I want you to know that shortly after this youth group trip I entered college and my whole world changed. My learned bias and my belief in homosexuality as a sin was flipped upside down as I was exposed to new people and new ideas. I have walked away from the religion that taught me to hate. My life is now one of empowering and advocating for young people. 20 years later I carry my shame as a reminder to check my privilege. I consider myself an ally and I hope my advocacy over the years has righted some of my wrongs.
Wherever you are I hope you’re each still sitting close with a loved one and living a wonderful life.
With a heartfelt apology,
A kid who learned the truth
He admits to treating them like “second class citizens,” and says he was “17 and bigoted.” Today, he describes himself as a “kid who learned the truth.”
H/T: Pink News
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I Came Out as Heteroflexible and My Girlfriend is Not Happy
In a sincere post on Reddit, 25-year-old McJiggerThrow described his experience after coming out to his girlfriend as heteroflexible. If you’re not familiar with the term “heteroflexible,” Merriam-Webster defines it as a person who is “predominantly heterosexual but open to an occasional homosexual encounter.”
He wrote:
I have in the past been passingly curious about men, on an entirely sexual level (it’s more about penis than men – the male form does absolutely nothing for me) and once experimented with a guy to explore the feelings. It was okay but I didn’t feel the need to ever repeat the experience. I identify as straight.
So I was casually talking in bed with my girlfriend of about 5 months and she mentioned how an ex had once told her that he had once experimented with a guy and as soon as he said that she lost all attraction to him. As she told me this, my body went into full panic mode and she immediately realized something was wrong. She said “Have you, too? Or do you like men, too?”.
I said no and she said that she felt like I was lying to her for the first time. After an insufferable silence I went onto to explain (very badly – I’ve never felt the need to explain/quantify this before) that I am a little heteroflexible. I couldn’t bring myself to tell her about the experimentation at the time and still haven’t told her.
I am incredibly open-minded and don’t really care for labels, what other people are into etc., but clearly this is not the case for her. She gets upset and didn’t know what to say. It ends up with her deciding that I am lying to myself, that I should allow myself to explore these feelings. Basically – that I am at least bisexual and maybe even gay, but in denial. I tell her that this is offensive – I am quite capable of exploring my own feelings and have come to my own conclusions. The conversation ends in tears on my own part (over her reaction), with her comforting me but refusing to say anything positive about the conversation, saying she doesn’t know what to think. She’s out of town today with work so I’m sat (working) at home on my own having the worst time of my life.
I feel absolutely terrible. I love this woman – more than I have loved somebody in my life (truly). To think that she now sees me as emasculated and that she has lost her attraction for me is devastating. Especially so as I don’t even see this as a big part of me – I have no desire to sleep with men, I only ever pursue women, watch straight porn etc. I wouldn’t have told her but the way I reacted to what she was saying left me with no choice.
She just can’t comprehend on any level how I can have a passing interest in penis/male sexuality and maybe fantasize about every now and then, without this being a defining part of my sexuality. She thinks it HAS to mean that I attracted to men and want to be with men. How can I express this in some terms that she might understand? What can I say that might make her understand? This is the worst possible way I can think of losing someone I love. Please don’t just say she should be more understanding and that I should dump her – she is an empathetic person but this is just beyond her comprehension, plus I understand why she doesn’t like it, of course.
If you could give McJiggerThrow advice, what would you say? Leave a comment on Facebook!
H/T: Queerty
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Fitness Model Steve Raider is Slaying Instagram
Girls just want to have fun, and so does fitness model Steve Raider, who’s twerkin’ on Instagram.
Adorable Bros Try Really Hard to Twerk
To be honest, their video is awkward and uncomfortable, but it’s also very endearing. If you’ve ever hit up the club and tried to twerk sober, you probably can relate to these college guys.
Unless your gaydar is on point, it’s hard to tell whether or not these boys are straight or queer, but one thing is certain they’re ridiculously cute together (obviously, the one on the left is the top, and the one on the right is the bottom).
Even if you think twerking is stupid, it’s hard to look past their amazing bodies and comically bad clapping. Just watch!
Dating App Predator Murders Four Young Men
You probably haven’t heard the name Stephen Port, but he’s about to be an infamous serial killer. Port terrorized London and stole the lives of 23-year-old Anthony Patrick Walgate, 22-year-old Gabriel Kovari, 21-year-old Daniel Whitworth, and 25-year-old Jack Taylor. Port has been using more than one dating app to murder young gay men.
In the last 15 months, Port killed at least four young men. He connected with the men over a dating app and then poisoned the men with GHB, a sedative that can cause unconsciousness. While some people take small doses of GHB recreationally, Port provided an excess amount, which proved deadly.
He’s currently in custody and being held on four counts of murder as well as “administering a poison with intent to endanger life or inflict grievous bodily harm.”
While this tragedy cannot be undone, it serves as a reminder. Be careful. When you meet guys online or on your phone, be safe, wear protection and tell a friend where you’re going.
H/T: Queerty
