Former Vanderpump Rules star Scheana Shay is opening up about a lesser-known chapter in her romantic journey – one that prompted deep questions about her sexuality before she met her now-husband, Brock Davies. In her candid new memoir, My Good Side, Shay, 40, recounts a brief yet eye-opening fling with a female friend she refers to only as “DD.” The relationship, she explains, stirred thoughts of bisexuality, but ultimately faded as her connection with Davies solidified.
An Unexpected Romance
In the book, Shay reveals she met “DD” in April 2019 at Stagecoach, the popular country music festival. Their bond was instant: dinner in West Hollywood, holding hands in public, and passionate kisses at a LGBTQ-friendly hotspot. Shay recalls, “It felt like more than friendship but not enough to admit or commit to a relationship.” This whirlwind of emotions led her to question longstanding assumptions about her own sexuality.
Shay told People that though both were close friends, their feelings deepened – horsing around, drinking, and contemplating a shift into something more serious. But timing played a key role. She says, “I don’t think we were necessarily ready to have the talk” about evolving their relationship. Meeting Brock Davies a few months later changed everything – and she suggests that without that spark, her love story with DD might have continued.
A Coming-Out… To Herself
Reflecting on the experience, Shay admits she never spoke out loud about her attraction to DD until working on her memoir. “The whole thing was very confusing,” she writes. “Was I bisexual? Was I just attracted to her?” Dating Davies sharpened her awareness, but she acknowledges that this flirtation could have changed her path.
Shay emphasizes she doesn’t regret how it all unfolded. Now happily married and mother to their daughter Summer Moon (born April 2021), she tells People, “Brock is my person.” Despite casting aside the possibility of a queer partnership, Shay says her experience with DD remains a meaningful part of her personal growth.
The Memoir: Growth and Raw Honesty
My Good Side is being released in the wake of Shay’s decade-long journey on Vanderpump Rules. It explores her battles with OCD, grief, and relationship betrayals. Among the revelations: Shay’s affair with Eddie Cibrian, miscarriages, and her husband Brock’s confessed infidelity during her pregnancy. The book presents a theme of resilience and reinvention.
Shay told The Independent after the book’s release, “This is me at my most authentic… every skeleton in my closet is now just fully out in the living room.” This deeply personal work marks a departure from television portrayals and tabloid stories, opting instead for emotional transparency.
Romance, Betrayal and a Queer Turn
Shay’s biography is rich with love, lust, and pain. Among its pages are accounts of high-profile flings – John Mayer, Jesse Metcalfe, Adrian Grenier, and more – as well as the emotional wreckage of her husband’s affair. But the brief romance with DD is its own quiet heartbeat: an intimate encounter that forced Shay to ask, “Who could I have been… if I allowed myself to be?”
That shard of truth resonates powerfully with LGBTQ+ readers. For many queer women, fleeting yet erotic friendships can be pivotal. Shay’s stories affirm that sexuality isn’t always black-and-white – sometimes it’s a mystery we only learn by living it.
Settling Into Motherhood, Marriage, Identity
Two years into her marriage to Davies, Shay says she’s in a different place. “Our relationship isn’t perfect – I don’t think any marriage is, but I think he’s perfect for me,” she told People. Parenthood has brought clarity, she says, and a renewed commitment: “Your past doesn’t define your future. We’re growing and learning and being a better version of ourselves.”
Her daughter Summer Moon, now four, is at the center of this new chapter. Shay shared publicly that Brock’s affair occurred during her pregnancy – a disclosure she held back from Vanderpump Rules to protect her family and their story.
Yet writing the memoir felt essential. Shay hopes to cast off the label of “reality star,” transforming it into “author, advocate, mother, authentic woman.”
Why This Matters for Gay Readers
Scheana Shay’s story isn’t just tabloid fodder. It speaks to the journeys of many queer women who question their sexuality during moments of intimacy. Her tale highlights emotional truth amid social expectations. By sharing a past she nearly kept hidden, Shay offers validation and a reminder that identity can be fluid – and complex.
For gay and bisexual women, especially those raised with rigid expectations around heterosexual monogamy, Shay’s experience echoes familiar internal conflict. She never “came out,” but she did wrestle with her feelings in private and now has placed them in the public record. That matters.
A Path Forward
Shay emphasizes that while her chapter with DD closed, its impact remains. The friendship faded as she and Davies grew closer, but the memory lingers – an anchor to a road not taken.
Today, Shay is forging ahead: married, a mother, an advocate for mental health, and a budding author. She’s exploring career opportunities beyond reality TV and maintains that her innermost self is now fully shared with the world.
“I’m not the girl who’s going to be walked all over anymore,” she said in The Independent. And with My Good Side behind her, she means it- on her own terms, with or without a label.
