5. Becoming a Disney clichΓ©
Like many, Disney played a heavy part in my upbringing. I was totally Prince Eric, by the way. However, letβs leave the Disney clichΓ©s to Disney. By that I mean, stop acting like heβs Prince Charming.
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Heβs a man, youβre a man, you have something special, thatβs awesome. But, life isn’tΒ a movie. Thatβs always how we get disappointed. Life is random, unexpected and full of ups and downs β embrace it together.
6.Β Trying desperately to make him happy
You canβt make everyone happy, EVER. You can bring joy to their lives, but at the end of the day we are in charge of our own happiness. By trying desperately to make him happy, what youβre really doing is trying desperately to make him stay with you. Ask yourself why you think heβs going to leave you? Get to the crux of the situation β I guarantee you it has to do with you, not him.
7.Β Forgiving too easily
Forgiving too easily rewards bad behavior. Over time, you will train him to think he can get away with anything. ItΒ lowers your value and a man needs to feel like heβs associated with someone of value and worth. As a result, you will make him feel more valuable. When you diminish your worth, he will lose interest fast.
8.Β Apologizing for your feelings
Your feelings are just as valid as his (never forget that). Stop saying, βIβm sorryβ before everything you say. It makes you seem unconfident and unsure of who you are, which makes the man wonder what you have to offer him.
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Saying no to things and having your own opinion does NOT mean youβre an asshole. It means you have a brain and youβre your own person, which heβll respect.
9.Β Caring more about himΒ than yourself
I understand your need to save the world, but the first person you need to worry about saving is yourself. If you arenβt full of being, you will never be able to deliver love and kindness in a genuine way. It will be forced, fake, and little-by-little it will chip away your dignity. If you care about him, you need to care about yourself first. This ups your value, which will bring him to you.
David Artavia is an actor and writer from New York City. He loves living vicariously through his friends.Β FollowΒ him on TwitterΒ andΒ Like his Facebook page.Β