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  • Horny Jail: Meme Or Fabled Promised Land

    Horny Jail: Meme Or Fabled Promised Land

    Go To Horny Jail: All About The Meme

    If you’ve been around internet culture, then you’ve been around memes. And one of the more recent memes that has been making the rounds on social media is the “Go To Horny Jail Bonk!” meme.

    This meme depicts a dog (or more precisely a doge) that is condemning another doge to do their time in horny jail.

    So what is horny jail? Why is this meme so popular? And how do you use this meme properly? It’s time to get your ‘bonk’ on and send some horny souls to their rightful imprisonment.

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    What The Meme Means

    This may come as a shock, but “horny jail” is not an actual place. You’re not going to be handcuffed and shipped off to a remote location full of other horny people serving their time. That would simply be too good to be true.

    You are likely to get this meme if you’ve posted something thirsty or naughty on your main timeline. The meme is a doge bonking another doge for being perverted. These doges are stand-ins for the poster and the memer. The ‘bonked’ doge is meant to be the original poster to whom the memer is bonking. The memer being the one to send the poster to “horny jail.”

    Horny jail is just a way to say that you are being too lewd or explicit, and it might be inappropriate for some people. You’re probably going to be sent to “horny jail” when you are being thirsty on your social media platform and you need to be teased for it.

    The bonk was originally meant for people who were being “horny on main.” This is what happens when you reveal too much sexually on your “main” account, the subtext being that you have different accounts where you hide your other, less acceptable posts.

     

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    The Origin Of the Meme

    According to Know Your Meme, BaconatorSr posted an image of the two dogs on March 19, 2020, and it has garnered over a thousand five hundred likes and dozens of comments. From there it made the rounds on social media platforms gaining popularity and developing with every use, like most memes.

     

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    The Spread Of The Meme

    The meme of bonk go to horny jail has since been shared on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok. It has good traction and people immediately started making their own versions of the meme. It’s also led to “horny jail” becoming a common reference point in internet culture.

    The Variations Of The Meme

    Because this meme is so popular it immediately took off spawning tons of copycats with other animals bonking or condemning each other to horny jail. There are even posts with human characters doing the bonking.

    It’s not just pictures either, on TikTok there is a song called Bonk! Go To Horny Jail. There are hundreds of variations with some using the Bonk! element for their own punchline.

    The “Go To Horny Jail Bonk!” or “Bonk! Go To Horny Jail” meme gave rise to horny police meme. The “horny police” being the ones who would take you to horny jail if it was a real place – and we wish it was.

    The officers of the imaginary police force against horniness arrest you for being too lewd on your main social media platform. They are meant to be a deterrent to keep you from posting horny stuff on main.

    How To Use It

    Post this meme if someone you know is being too horny or sexually lewd about something on their social media. They might not know how badly they are coming off so this meme will be a good way to get them to tone it down without too much sting. It’s a light way to help someone correct their course.

    You can also use it disparagingly against yourself in a self-deprecating way. People have been using this meme as a way to say that they are looking for love or that they find someone physically attractive.

    Is “Bonk! Go To Hony Jail” Culturally Relevant?

    It’s been sampled by tons of people and has given rise to a new expression “horny jail” and the “horny police.” There are many memes that rise up and leave as quickly as they came but “go to horny jail” is changing as time goes on. This little meme has evolved into something more which is why it’s so important we know where it comes from.

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    Is The Meme Hampering Sex Positivity?

    On the one hand, it might seem like the meme is sex-negative since it’s being used to keep the dirty stuff off the main timeline, but it’s also a playful way of telling someone they are teetering on the edge of the line. Usually, this meme is just the punchline of a joke, so it’s a little scold without much judgment.

    While the meme might be a way for the more sexually conservative in the audience to express themselves, the language of “horny jail” has been empowering. People are using “horny jail” to announce their own reasons for being sent there. Some will post things like: “The things I would do to Ryan Reynolds would put me in horny jail.”

    This meme gives users language to talk about sex more openly, even if it’s to express discomfort which is a good thing. Part of sex-positivity is being able to tell people that they are making you uncomfortable and learning how to set boundaries. If this meme helps that in any way then it’s a good thing.

     

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    Final Thoughts

    Everyone has a different tolerance for sexual language on social media. Sometimes someone being horny on their main timeline can be a little much, so this meme is a gentle way to chastise someone for being excessive.

    Often on the internet, you are either sainted or canceled, but this meme shows us that some people have developed the ability to express an opinion in a pretty non-threatening manner and then go about their business.

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  • Hollywood Has A Queer Coding Problem

    Hollywood Has A Queer Coding Problem

    What Is Queer Coding? Unpacking This Hollywood Trope

    Have you ever noticed how a lot of cartoon villains are kinda…gay? Think about it. HIM from “The Power Puff Girls” wore thigh-high stilettos, a poofy dress, and spoke in a high-pitched voice. Scar from Disney’s “The Lion King” has a flair for the dramatic and feminine body language. Ursula from “The Little Mermaid” was based on real-life drag queen Divine. While their creators haven’t explicitly stated that these characters are queer, there’s enough subtext to suggest otherwise. That’s queer coding. But is it necessarily a bad thing? And where did this trope even come from? Let’s unpack queer coding.

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    What Is Queer Coding?

    Queer coding is a term used in media studies to describe characters that, though aren’t explicitly confirmed to be queer, have traits, behaviors, and dialogue that can be associated with queerness. These stereotypes are used to allude to a character’s queerness, so you can make the assumption for yourself without the authors explicitly stating it in the film or TV show.

    If you grew up watching Disney movies as a kid, you’ll know exactly what we’re talking about. Disney films of the past were rife with queer-coded characters. In “Peter Pan” you have the flamboyant Captain Hook. In “Pocahontas” you have Governor Ratcliffe, who wore bows in his hair and glittery capes. Tarzan’s “Terkina”, who was voiced by lesbian comedian Rosie O’Donnell, is a straight up butch. And in “Lilo and Stitch” you have Pleakley, who loved to disguise themselves in feminine clothing and makeup.

    Queer Coding: A Brief History

    As with most Hollywood tropes, the queer-coded character has a long and storied history.

    Between 1934 to 1968, Hollywood movies had to abide by the Motion Picture Production Code, also known as the Hays Code. Under this strict set of guidelines, filmmakers had to ensure that their films wouldn’t “lower the moral standards of those who see it” and that “the sympathy of the audience shall never be thrown to the side of crime, wrongdoing, evil, or sin.” At the time, things like overt displays of sexuality, interracial romantic relationships, same-sex couples, and positive depictions of queerness were all considered morally wrong by conservatives, so naturally, the code would ban their depictions. Even things we would now consider benign, like “kissing in a horizontal position” or “nude silhouettes” were considered questionable.

    What’s a filmmaker to do?

    And while the code was voluntary, flouting it meant lowering your chances of getting your film played in theaters. As such, anyone who wanted to insert queer characters into their films had to get creative. Rather than writing a gay character into the script, which would never fly under the Hays Code, filmmakers would code their characters as queer, depicting queer-coded male characters as effeminate and flamboyant and queer-coded female characters as tomboyish, cold, and uninterested in men.

     

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    Filmmakers could also more easily get away with portraying queer-coded or queer characters if they were depicted as either the butt of jokes or as evil villains. Remember, this was around the time when anti-sodomy laws and gay bar raids were commonplace across the US. At the time, the majority of Americans had a very negative view of queer people and the queer community, and as such, many filmmakers would perpetuate harmful stereotypes like “the sissy” or the “sadist”.

    Queer characters would also be given a tragic storyline, usually getting killed off towards the end of the film. That’s why we have tropes like the “Bury Your Gays” trope, which is unfortunately still apparent to this day.

    Do Queer-Coded Characters Count As Good Queer Representation?

    Before the Stonewall riots and the gay rights movement, queer audiences had to settle for what little morsels of representation were available.

    And while some gay men and women get a kick out of seeing themselves represented as a badass queer-coded villain, seeing characters similar to you continually depicted as reprehensible and immoral can definitely have a negative impact on your sense of self-worth.

    Plus, these stereotypes didn’t disappear once the Hays Code became obsolete. In fact, many of the stereotypes that were born during the Hays era stuck around. They can be seen in hundreds of films. You can see the sissy archetype in Gaston’s bumbling sidekick Le Fou from “Beauty and the Beast”, the “sadist” in the brother-murdering Scar from “The Lion King”, the depraved lesbian in the cold-hearted housekeeper Mrs. Danvers in Alfred Hitchcock’s “Rebecca” and the psychotic trans woman in Michael Caine’s Dr. Robert Elliot.

    So while queer coding isn’t inherently wrong, a negative portrayal doesn’t just have a harmful effect on a young queer audience, it also further perpetuates existing negative stereotypes.

    Queer Coding vs Queerbaiting

    While queer coding isn’t always a bad thing – there are plenty of benign queer-coded characters out there – queerbaiting, on the other hand, is almost always problematic.
    Queerbaiting is the act of inserting queer themes or implying that characters might be queer for the sole purpose of provoking and attracting more audiences. Oftentimes, queerbaiting looks like this: Authors/directors/producers will add a dash of homoerotic tension between two same-sex characters, often during series finales, as a ratings grab. A brush of the hand here, a lingering look there, a selfless, life-saving act here. And yet the two characters never really admit their supposed attraction for each other or take their relationship to the next level. Sometimes characters will share a kiss or enjoy a brief tryst. But more often than not, their storylines will fizzle out and be swept under the rug.

    But wait, shouldn’t queer audiences be happy to see queer-coded and overtly queer characters get some action? Activists and media scholars will argue that, in 2021, it’s about time for queer people to get the representation they rightly deserve. And that means out and proud characters having healthy and happy relationships that don’t result in death.

    The Bottom Line

    At a time when queerness was considered morally wrong, queer coding was a way for artists and writers to insert queer characters into their work without ruffling conservatives’ feathers. But today, the status quo has changed. LGBTQ+ people are getting the acceptance they rightly deserve. And more and more artists are able to portray gays, lesbians, bisexuals, non-binary, and trans people in a positive way. In animation, this is especially apparent, with canonically queer characters in shows like “Steven Universe”, “She-Ra”, and “Adventure Time”.

    In turn, these positive portrayals are also changing the way audiences feel about LGBTQ+ people. While slowly destroying the negative stereotypes that have become prevalent in pop culture. With that being said, it seems that queer coding is turning into less of a necessity and becoming a relic of the past.

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  • The Pastel Aesthetic: Trends, Styles, And Inspiration

    The Pastel Aesthetic: Trends, Styles, And Inspiration

    How To Embrace The Pastel Aesthetic

    As the winter season (and almost two years in a pandemic) approaches, we’re seeing pastel colors trending yet again. You can chalk it up to 80s and Y2K nostalgia or living during a time of uncertainty and change. Everyone can use a little eye candy to cope with the times, after all.

    Pastels are a wonderful way to show your true colors and brighten up your life. From edgy pastel aesthetic outfits to funky pastel accent pieces for your home, here’s an easy guide to making pastels your new aesthetic!

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    What Is The Pastel Aesthetic And Why Do We Love It So Much?

    Pastels are a color family distinguished by pale hues and less intensive colors. They’re named after the chalk-like art medium, known for its lightness and almost translucent effect when on canvas. Historically, you can see pastels influencing the late Baroque and Rococo period – think Marie Antoinette.

    Other eras of note include the post-war period of the Roaring Twenties, as seen in the glittery and pastel flapper fashion. Pastels also trended in 80s interior design, a much more muted aesthetic compared to the funky brights of the 70s. As for the past few decades, you can’t separate the pastel pink aesthetic from the 90s and 2000s.

    When society collectively craves lighter feelings, we tend to select lighter color palettes. We also can’t discount Gen Z’s trendsetting power. Currently, it’s all about reliving glittery and glossy childhoods through pastel pink-colored glasses! So perhaps these light cotton candy hues have never actually gone out of style – they’ve just evolved to fit the current moment.

    Add A Little More Pastel Into Your Home

    Nordic interior design is taking Pinterest and Instagram by storm. Key features of the Nordic style include minimalism, clean lines of sight, light or muted colors, and an emphasis on function. Organization plays a huge part in Nordic design, so get creative with how you store your things!

    It’s about harmonizing your home to inspire a harmonious mindset. Pair that design philosophy with the joy and optimism of a pastel color palette, and you have the perfect recipe for a photogenic home. Here’s how to create a space that’s refreshing on the eyes and on the mind.

    Refresh Your Space With Pastel Accent Pieces

    You don’t need to buy a ton of products to create a pastel-perfect home. Simply select the right accent pieces for your space! Revive that houseplant and repot it in a patterned vessel. Get yourself a squiggly mirror for your vanity. How about some quirky-shaped candles to perfect that shelfie? And if you’ve been biding your time making art at home, select a frame and hang up that masterpiece!

    Wanna save yourself a trip to the furniture store? Grab a can of pastel spray paint and DIY all the things.

    Cook In Style With Pastel Kitchen Tools

    Listen, it’s okay if you’re cooking instant ramen for the nth time this week. But why not change it up with a cute bowl and iridescent cutlery? Switch your boring old spatulas with something baby blue or pink!

    Also, if you haven’t yet, go and watch Cooking With Paris on Netflix. Everything Paris Hilton uses in her attempts to cook just screams pastel pink aesthetic. And we are #living for this major kitchen inspo moment!

    Create A Pinterest-Worthy WFH Setup

    Most of us will be working from home indefinitely so might as well invest in an aesthetic office space. Pick out an ergonomic chair – in pink, obviously – and bid lower back pain farewell. The same goes for a standing desk or monitor riser. Again, it’s all about the color palette you select. Take a scroll through any kawaii gamer Instagram account for starters.

    Not into gaming? No problem. Maybe store your pens in a cute mug. Find cute notepads and leave affirmations on your desk. Select a pastel planner for next year so you’re more motivated to get through those goals.

    Your Beddings Also Deserve A Glow Up

    We spend a quarter of our lives sleeping, so might as well make our beds easy on the eyes and easier to fall asleep in. If that means getting two more pairs of pillows and a plush duvet, so be it. Brighten up your bedroom in select pastels and patterns for your linens. An accent pillow won’t hurt either!

     

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    Pastel Outfits For Your Next Ootd

    Pastel outfits made a comeback on the 2020 and 2021 runways – another creative response to the times. High fashion labels created entire collections in joyful pastels, full of clothes to cheer us up from the first few gloomy months of COVID. The Balmain Resort 2021 show in particular featured 90s-inspired pastel outfits. Naturally, a lot of the OOTDs you see lately have taken on the same vibe, whether that’s couture or cozy fits.

    Cozy, But Make It Aesthetic

    Seriously, does anyone still wear hard pants while working from home? Loungewear is the new office wear, so look cute and feel comfy while you’re at it. Nothing says comfy-chic like tie-dye coords or a matching oversized jumper and sweatpants.

    For A Grungy Look, Get Into The Pastel Goth Aesthetic

    For some, grunge isn’t a phase – it’s who we are. But what if we want to show our sweet side, too? Get the best of both worlds with pastel goth aesthetic outfits. It features the classic edginess of goth – leather chokers, chunky creepers, metal studs – but makes it cute and candy-colored.

    Create A Zoom-Ready Pastel Makeup Look

    Pastel eyeliner is making loads of waves on beauty Instagram right now. But one great source for inspiration at the moment? The hit HBO show Euphoria, which features some of the most dazzling makeup looks in TV history.

     

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    Just scroll through Doniella Davy’s Instagram account – she’s the visionary who created all those looks. Occasionally she posts makeup tutorials and lets us in on the makeup products she uses.

    Pastels: An Invitation To Hope

    Don’t let the upcoming winter season or the ongoing pandemic get you down. Turn your home and wardrobe into a source of comfort in these times. Select the kind of energy you wish to surround yourself with. Let the aesthetic pastel trend inspire you to feel joy and hope, even in the little things. And, like pastels, you too have the power to be a source of light to others!

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    Millennial Mormons Are Becoming Increasingly Gay-Friendly

    Gays cheered at Brigham Young University — millennial Mormons are increasingly tolerant of same-sex attraction.

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  • LGBTQ Kids Find a Queer Community in Pop Culture

    LGBTQ Kids Find a Queer Community in Pop Culture

    How pop culture has become a refuge for queer children.

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  • 1,000 Years Ago, the Catholic Church Didn’t Care If You Were Gay

    1,000 Years Ago, the Catholic Church Didn’t Care If You Were Gay

    A thousand years ago, the Catholic Church paid little attention to homosexuality.

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  • Why We Can’t Resist the Lure of Merfolk

    Why We Can’t Resist the Lure of Merfolk

    Why we can’t resist the lure of mermaids and mermen.

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  • Gay Christian Theologist Claims ‘Jesus Is Polyamorous’

    Gay Christian Theologist Claims ‘Jesus Is Polyamorous’

    Is Jesus polyamorous? This gay Christian theologist thinks so, and he wants Christians to know it’s ok to be polyamorous. (more…)