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  • What Does Cisgender Mean?

    What Does Cisgender Mean?

    If you’re like most people, you may not have heard the term “cisgender” before. But it’s important to know what it means, especially if you want to be an ally to the transgender community. Let’s explore the meaning and importance of the term “cisgender” below.

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    What Is Cisgender? Meaning And Origin Of The Term

    The Oxford English Dictionary’s “cisgender” definition is “a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds to his or her sex at birth”. The term combines the Latin prefix “cis”, which means “on this side”, and the word “gender”, which many people define as the socially constructed characteristics of men and women. 

    So, how do you know if you’re cisgender? If you were born with a penis and testes, assigned “male” at birth, and continue to identify as male, you are considered cisgender. Likewise, if you were born with a vagina and uterus, assigned “female” at birth, and continue to identify as female, you are also considered cisgender.

    According to the American Historical Association, the OED cites a 1994 post by biologist Dana Leland Defosse to the Usenet newsgroup alt.transgendered as the first recorded use of the term. 

    Transgender Studies Quarterly’s May 2014 issue states that the term “emerged from trans* activist discourses in the 1990s that criticized many commonplace ways of describing sex and gender. The terms man and woman, left unmarked, tend to normalize cisness — reinforcing the unstated ‘naturalness’ of being cisgender”. 

    In other words, using the terms “cisgender man” or “cisgender woman” to describe people who don’t identify as transgender or non-binary is an act of resistance against the belief that cisgender identities are the so-called “norm”. The term “cis” helps “distinguish diverse sex/gender identities without reproducing unstated norms associated with cisness”.

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    Cisgender vs Transgender And Non-binary

    So, what does cis mean when compared to transgender and non-binary identities? The Latin prefix “trans” means “on the other side of” and describes how trans people identify differently from their sex assigned at birth. In a sense, many people understand cisgender as the “opposite” of being trans. 

    Thus, a transgender man is someone who was assigned female at birth but feels that their gender identity is male, and a transgender woman is assigned male at birth but identifies as female.

    Non-binary people, on the other hand, are people who do not identify as either male or female. The term “non-binary” refers to the rejection of gender as a binary system – the idea that gender is only male or female. 

    For non-binary people, gender is more like a spectrum, a wide range of identities spanning from feminine to masculine. Non-binary folks can identify somewhere within that spectrum or even outside of it altogether.

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    Cisgender vs Straight

    Contrary to popular belief, identifying as cisgender differs from identifying as straight. However, you can identify as both at the same time. 

    Cisgender is a gender identity, whereas straight (or heterosexual) is a sexual orientation. Sexual orientation and gender identity are two different aspects of our identities. This means that you can be cisgender and identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual/pansexual, or straight. 

    Gender identity describes your innermost conception of your gender – your maleness, femaleness, or lack of either. 

    Sexual orientation, on the other hand, describes who you find attractive. Heterosexual or straight people find people of the opposite gender attractive. Gay and lesbian people find people of the same gender attractive. Meanwhile, bisexual and pansexual people find people of the same or different genders attractive.

    What Is Cishet?

    “Cishet” describes people who are cisgender and heterosexual. 

    People in queer circles often use the term “cishet” to refer to those who do not belong to the LGBTQ community. While, yes, you can be cisgender and gay/lesbian/bisexual at the same time, the truth is that there are more cisgender and heterosexual people than there are LGBTQ people in this world. 

    What Is Cishet Privilege?

    Cishet privilege refers to the freedoms and benefits cishet people gain from cisheteronormativity, the prevailing assumption that everyone is and should be cisgender and heterosexual. This assumption leads society to treat anyone who identifies outside that standard as anomalies or deviants.

    While the LGBTQ movement has afforded queer people more rights and protections than ever, there is no denying that cisheteronormativity is still a pervasive problem that leads to stigma, discrimination, and violence. Here are just a few examples of what cishet privilege can look like:

    • Having personal identification documents that represent one’s identity accurately
    • Not being questioned for or denied entry into private spaces for having a different gender presentation from one’s ID
    • Not being turned away from sex-segregated facilities such as restrooms, domestic violence shelters, and prisons;
    • Not being refused proper medical care or needing a psychiatrist’s approval
    • Not being expected to change one’s gender expression or gender identity to fit dress codes and “standards” in places like religious institutions, schools, workplaces, government offices, etc.
    • Not having your lived name, personal pronouns, and gender identity questioned and denied by family, friends, co-workers, and strangers
    • Seeing yourself accurately and respectfully represented in fictional works
    • Not living in fear of being accosted or physically harassed for your gender identity and expression
    • Living free of fear or the threat of rejection from your loved ones

    With all these barriers standing in the way, transgender and non-binary people thus face higher incidences of mental illness, substance abuse, homelessness, poverty, joblessness, and lower educational attainment. 

    How To Counter Cishet Privilege

    If you identify as cishet, there are many ways you can use your privilege to help, including:

    Educate Yourself And Others On LGBTQ Issues

    Privilege is like a bubble that shields you from experiencing or even seeing the hardships of less-privileged people. As such, people with cishet privilege must go the extra mile to educate themselves and understand the challenges that non-cishet people experience. 

    Moreso, you need to understand that the onus of educating cishet people does not lie on queer people, who have enough on their plate as it is. 

    Create And Support Safe Spaces For LGBTQ People

    If you want to break down cisheteronormativity, you need to foster safe spaces for all LGBTQ people. One simple way to do this is by being an out and proud ally to the queer community. Use and respect people’s lived names and personal pronouns and call out homophobia and transphobia. Additionally, be open to others correcting and educating you when you make a mistake.

    Pass The Mic To LGBTQ People

    Being an LGBTQ ally means recognizing that cishet people have all the resources and means to enforce and protect their privilege. While this also means that cishet people have more power and privilege to speak up for the queer community, this doesn’t mean that you should speak over or for them. 

    LGBTQ people can speak to the unique challenges of living underprivileged. Additionally, queer people know which solutions will help bring more equality and opportunities to their community. As such, you should make an effort to give LGBTQ people the opportunity to speak for themselves. 

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    The Bottom Line

    So, what does it mean to be cisgender? In short, it means your gender identity matches your birth-assigned sex. This contrasts with transgender people, who feel their assigned sex does not match their gender identity.

    Understanding these differences is an important step in working towards creating a more inclusive world for all. Above, we note just a few ways you can counter cishet privilege. Keep reading our site to learn more about how you can be an ally to the LGBTQ community!

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  • 11 Gay Icons You Need to Know About

    11 Gay Icons You Need to Know About

    When you hear the phrase “LGBTQ icon”, who is the first person who comes to mind? Is it one of Generation Z’s representatives rallying for LGBTQ rights on social media or retro gay icons who paved the way for queer celebrities in the 70s and 80s? No matter what you believe makes someone a gay icon, here are eleven people who belong on your list!

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    1. RuPaul (@rupaulofficial)

    Even if you don’t religiously follow RuPaul’s Drag Race, chances are you’ve heard the name before, and for a good reason. In the 1990s, RuPaul achieved peak drag queen fame, becoming one of the most important contemporary gay icons worldwide.
    His show has enabled public conversations about black empowerment, misogyny, and even politics, earning it 24 Emmy wins since 2009.

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    2. WILLOW (@willowsmith)

    No longer just Will Smith’s daughter, WILLOW has made a name for herself within the LGBTQ community, coming out as bisexual and polyamorous in 2019. The young singer has been praised for having open and candid conversations about her sexuality with her mother, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and has since become an icon for many Gen Zers exploring their gender identity.

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    3. George Michael (@georgemofficial)

    Despite passing away in 2016, former Wham! frontman George Michael continues to reign as one of the world’s most famous gay music icons. His televised coming-out announcement in 1998 inspired an entire generation to do the same, banding together to create a louder and prouder community.

    His numerous acts of charity only came to light after his death. Many revealed that the queer singer had donated millions to support various causes, such as children with special needs and the global homelessness epidemic.

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    4. Prince (@prince)

    Known for his androgynous looks and impressive guitar skills, Prince quickly became the ultimate gay music icon without even expecting it. While many assumed that his ambiguous approach to sexuality was an act, Prince encouraged fans to explore the unending facets of the gender spectrum.

    By openly opposing labels and condemning societal expectations of American masculinity, it’s no surprise that Prince was often the subject of controversy but also an inspiration to the gay community.

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    5. Elton John (@eltonjohn)

    After coming out as bisexual in an interview for Rolling Stone in 1976, Elton John’s journey within the LGBTQ community was nothing short of tumultuous. A few years later, he married and was quickly divorced from his husband Renate Blauel. In 2009, his attempt to adopt an HIV-positive child failed because he was an unmarried homosexual man.

    Elton John has since become both a music legend and icon for his perseverance amidst the continued fight for equality.

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    6. Bretman Rock (@bretmanrock)

    Filipino-American social media star Bretman Rock is one of the biggest names on LGBTQ Instagram. Vocal about the queer community and other issues like racism and environmentalism, Bretman Rock is not just your typical influencer. Approachable, hilarious, and passionate, Bretman Rock is often considered a role model for LGBTQ youths.

    In 2021, Bretman became the first openly gay man to grace the cover of Playboy Magazine.

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    7. Amandla Stenberg (@amandlastenberg)

    Known for playing Rue in The Hunger Games franchise, Amandla Stenberg is a bisexual-turned-gay Scream Queen with impressive credits to her name. Now playing queer protagonists in most of her films, Amandla preaches, through her characters, about being your most authentic self.

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    8. Freddie Mercury (@freddiemercury)

    Despite his tragic demise, Queen frontman Freddie Mercury inadvertently became an unwitting “spokesperson” for AIDS. After publicly announcing his illness and succumbing to AIDS, tribute concerts and foundations in his name have raised over $20 million for global AIDS projects.

    Until now, Freddie Mercury remains at the core of the AIDS conversation, enabling the spread of awareness and helping to destigmatize the disease.

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    9. Lil Nas X (@lilnasx)

    As an unapologetically queer black artist, Lil Nas X’s ultimate goal is to “open doors for other queer people to simply exist”. Impressively, he is also the youngest person to hold the record of Billboard’s longest-running number 1 hitmaker, proving the prediction that he would be a one-hit wonder wrong.

    Following the success of “Old Town Road”, Lil Nas X published a “baby registry” that highlighted important LGBTQ rights organizations, encouraging fans to donate to each “little bundle of joy”.

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    10. David Bowie (@davidbowie)

    David Bowie was more than just the godfather of glam rock. He was also a pop culture rebel and a lifeline for the gay community. Since debuting his persona Ziggy Stardust in 1972, David Bowie paved the way for gender expression through fashion and created a marketable image for androgyny.

    While he wasn’t an LGBTQ activist in a traditional sense, David Bowie has often been credited as someone who encouraged listeners to explore the stranger and less-talked-about sides of their personalities and desires.

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    11. Marsha P. Johnson (@mpjinstitute)

    African-American transgender rights activist Marsha P. Johnson made waves in the 1960s and 1970s when she threatened the then-accepted definition of queerness as a mental illness. In 1969, Marsha was among those who stood up to police during the Stonewall Inn raid, resisting arrest and protesting for equal rights for the community.

    The Marsha P. Johnson Institute was born and continues to provide a platform for black transgender people through her legacy.

    The Bottom Line

    Whether active in the 1960s, 1990s, 2000s or now, these gay icons have all played a significant role in LGBTQ history. They have opened doors for community members, encouraging awareness, acceptance, and activism.

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  • How To Say ‘Gay’ In Sign Language

    How To Say ‘Gay’ In Sign Language

    Though American Sign Language (ASL) has been around since the early 1800s, LGBTQ-related words are only becoming more commonplace now. As the desire to develop a deeper understanding of various LGBTQ identities expands, so does sign vocabulary. Knowing how to communicate with deaf LGBTQ peers can be empowering for both parties and increase accessibility. If you want to brush up on your queer signs, here’s how to say “gay” in sign language!

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    What Is “Gay” In Sign Language?

    If you want to say “gay” in sign language, tap the letter “G” on your chin. Alternatively, you can fingerspell (i.e. spell the word letter by letter) “gay” for clarity.

    There are many ways you can use the signed word “gay.” For instance, you can use it to ask about someone’s sexual identity or participate in LGBTQ workshops.

    Other LGBTQ Signs You Should Know

    Now that queer signs are becoming more popular, you should know a few other words.

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    Lesbian

    Make the shape of the letter “L” with your thumb and index finger, tapping onto your chin to indicate the word “lesbian”.

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    Bisexual

    Sign the letter “B” on your chin, then transition into the letter “I” as you move your hand forward to indicate the word “bisexual”.

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    Transgender

    Keep your hand open by your shoulder, then close it as you move your hand toward your chest to indicate the word “transgender.”

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    Queer

    “Queer” is a highly variable sign in the deaf community, so people may not always sign it the same way. One way to sign the word is to keep your hand flat and stretch out your middle finger (a sign known as an “open 8”) to your forehead, moving it to the back of your head.

    Another way to sign the word “queer” is to make an open 8 on your chin, then flick it in an outward movement. Like most other queer signs, you can also fingerspell the word “queer”.

    Why It’s Important To Learn ASL For The LGBTQ Deaf Community

    It may seem obvious why you should learn ASL for the LGBTQ deaf community – it helps you communicate better and allows others to express themselves freely. However, there are other benefits to learning ASL that may not be as evident.

    For instance, it is a little-known fact that deaf LGBTQ youth are at high risk of developing depression due to difficulty communicating with their hearing peers. In a research survey by The Trevor Project, 81% of participants reported experiencing depression, compared to only 39% of hearing respondents. Non-hearing respondents also claimed that environmental factors like discrimination from hearing peers and a lack of familial support contributed to thoughts of suicide.

    The same research survey concluded that the key to improving the deaf LGBTQ community’s well-being was improving accessibility in public spaces and encouraging learning ASL within the broader queer community.

    The Trevor Project also stated that community events should start mandating ASL interpretation and training staff to serve deaf LGBTQ people. More explicitly, it mentioned accessibility and support for deaf people on community websites, especially in promotional materials.

    Another way to support the deaf LGBTQ community is to access available resources online. The Deaf Queer Resource Center (DQRC) is the biggest national nonprofit resource center where people can find the most comprehensive information about deaf-queer communities. Another nonprofit organization to look into is the Rainbow Alliance of the Deaf, established in 1977 to promote deaf education and social welfare within the community.

    The Bottom Line

    If the non-queer deaf community still has a long way to go, the queer deaf community has an even longer journey ahead. Taking the time to learn queer signs and ASL culture is already one big step in the right direction. Start with the hand sign for “gay” and work your way up toward the rest of the LGBTQ dictionary!

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  • Was Achilles From The Iliad Gay Or Straight?

    Was Achilles From The Iliad Gay Or Straight?

    Achilles is known as the greatest warrior of the Greeks in Homer’s epic The Iliad. Yet this fierce fighter was driven to despair when his cousin Patroclus was killed. He grieved so deeply that scholars have wondered if the two companions were lovers – this question has endured, even popping up in modern film and book adaptations. Was Achilles bisexual, gay, or straight?

    Keep reading to learn more about this Greek fictional figure and how his sexuality has been portrayed in other works.

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    Who Is Achilles?

    Achilles is one of the greatest heroes of the Trojan War, depicted in The Iliad as a fearsome, near-unbeatable warrior. He was the son of the Greek king Peleus and the sea nymph Thetis. Because of his mother, he gained power beyond other mortals.

    When he was just a baby, Thetis attempted to make him immortal by bathing him in the River Styx. She dipped his entire body in the water, which blessed every part it touched with invincibility. However, she held him by his heel, leaving that part vulnerable. This is where we get the term “Achilles heel.”

    Thetis prophesied that Achilles would either die young with a glorious legacy or live a long, obscure life. Achilles chose the first fate and decided to join the other Greek kings in the Trojan War. He and his Myrmidon warriors were feared on the battlefield. But he withdrew when King Agamemnon took Briseis, his slave girl, from him. Seeing her as his rightful “battle prize”, he refused to fight alongside the other Greek forces, even when they were being destroyed by the Trojans.

    He refused despite attempts to appease him, including the return of Briseis and other tributes. His closest companion, Patroclus, decided to put on Achilles’ armor to fool the Trojans and rally the men into battle. Patroclus was killed by Hector of Troy, and the distraught Achilles burst his way onto the battlefield for a roaring rampage of revenge. Achilles then killed Hector and even dragged his body around the walls of Troy.

    The warrior’s death varies across different Greek stories. The prevailing version is that Paris shot him in his vulnerable heel, killing him. Others have depicted Achilles surviving the war and living on an island at the mouth of the Danube.

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    Was Achilles Gay?

    We’re not sure if Achilles is gay, but scholars have given different interpretations based on Homer’s epic poem, The Iliad. In The Iliad, it’s clear that Achilles was very close to his childhood friend and cousin Patroclus. In one book of the poem, Achilles even wished that all the soldiers from both sides would perish so that he and Patroclus could take Troy together. Their closeness is further hinted at when Achilles hears that Hector killed Patroclus.

    Achilles laments, “My dear comrade’s dead – Patroclus – the man I loved beyond all other comrades, loved as my own life – I’ve lost him.” Achilles holds an elaborate funeral for Patroclus, who appears as a ghost, and tells him, “Never bury my bones apart from yours, Achilles, let them lie together.” Later Greek writings were more explicit, portraying them as lovers in a pederastic relationship.

    However, Achilles is also implied to be attracted to women in other literary works and sections of The Iliad. One story of Achilles’ youth mentions that he has an affair with Deidamia, the daughter of King Lycomedes. Achilles also refused to help the Greeks because the slave girl Briseis was taken from him, hinting at his attachment to her.

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    Achilles’ Sexuality Has Been Both Straightwashed And Reclaimed

    Despite the ambiguity of Achilles’ sexuality in ancient literary texts, Hollywood decided to nix any exploration of his identity in 2004’s Troy. In the film, Achilles is presented as an admired brute, and Patroclus appears to have very limited influence on his emotions and actions.

    In this version, Achilles seems to fight solely for glory. When Patroclus is killed, the film completely skips over the intimate nature of his grieving. He appears to be spurred into action against Hector by pride and wrath, not by loyalty to his beloved friend. Troy’s storyline is heteronormative and completely glosses over any sexual or romantic implications between the two.

    Madeleine Miller’s The Song of Achilles goes in a completely different direction from the straightwashed movie. The book shows a complex, passionate love story between Achilles and Patroclus. When Patroclus dies in the book, Achilles throws himself over Patroclus’ corpse and weeps profusely, refusing to have his corpse burnt for fear of being parted from him. When he finally relents, he keeps a lock of Patroclus’ hair with him as a memento.

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    Is Achilles Gay? The Bottom Line

    It’s not clear if Achilles is gay or bisexual in The Iliad. The mystery has captivated creators, opening the door to numerous interpretations.

    Some think he’s bisexual, while others think he’s gay because of his attachment to Patroclus. Other versions completely gloss over this and portray him as heterosexual. Ultimately, it’s important to remember that Achilles is a fictional character upon whom writers have projected their ideas over the centuries.

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  • Here’s Why The Babadook Is Considered A Gay Icon

    Here’s Why The Babadook Is Considered A Gay Icon

    What makes a queer icon? Why are the likes of Judy Garland, Lady Gaga, and Cher revered by the LGBTQ community? According to Nylon, those who achieve such status are often people who display “extraordinary resilience under scrutiny”. They also deviate from the status quo, push the boundaries of gender and sex, and speak truth to power. Gay icons are, for the most part, underdogs whom all queer people can relate to on some level.  So what’s up with the Babadook being a gay icon?

    It’s befuddling to see a fictional monster such as the Babadook, a shadowy figure with menacing white eyes and a maniacal grin, crowned an icon by members of the LGBTQ community. At least the chronically online ones, that is.

    Here, we take a deep dive into the origins of the gay Babadook lore. We will explore how the Babadook became the LGBTQ icon that he is today.

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    Baba-who?

    The Babadook is a creepy humanoid that lurks in the dark and terrorizes the mother-son protagonists Amelia and Sam in Jennifer Kent’s 2014 horror film The Babadook. Amelia, a depressed widow, is overwhelmed with the grief of losing her husband and the task of raising a difficult child alone. Although sweet and caring, six-year-old Sam exhibits erratic behaviors stemming from the fear of an imaginary monster.

    Unable to sleep one night, Sam picks out a book for Amelia to read, Mister Babadook. The book tells the story of a pale, cloaked figure in a top hat called Mister Babadook. The book gets increasingly dark with every page until it ends with the words, “once you see what’s underneath…you’re going to wish you were dead.”

    Soon after, Sam becomes even more erratic and Amelia begins to see and hear strange things around the house. The Babadook uses the book to taunt Amelia further. He threatens to get stronger and deadlier the more she denies his existence.

    The Babadook, which was met with universal acclaim, is considered one of the best horror films to come out of this “still very new century”. The film is an exploration of the difficulties of motherhood. As well as, the dangers of refusing to confront your own demons. Most critics say that Mister Babadook stands as a metaphor for Amelia’s grief. Which, as the monster points out, will only get stronger the more she denies it.

    How The Babadook Became A Gay Icon

    So, how did a monstrous manifestation of a widow’s grief turn into a beloved queer icon? Like many memes on the internet, the “Babadook is gay” meme started as an innocuous joke on Tumblr. A user named ianstagram was one of the first to joke about the Babadook’s orientation. They said, “Whenever someone says the Babadook isn’t openly gay it’s like?? Did you even watch the movie???”

    Like with most jokes on Tumblr, other users continued building on the joke. And expanding the lore by pointing to “evidence” that the Babadook is gay. “I mean he created a pop-up book of himself for the drama of it all,” said one user. Seemingly (but also definitely jokingly) frustrated by commenters shutting down his theory, ianstagram responds by saying, “It may be ‘just a movie’ to you but to the LGBT community the Babadook is a symbol of our journey.”

    Why Tumblr Is Where It All Started

    If all of this makes no sense to you, you have to understand that “discourse” like this is part and parcel of what made Tumblr such an interesting place to be for young, queer people online. In its heyday, Tumblr was a melting pot of aspiring film critics, pop culture analysts, and social justice advocates. It was also one of the few places online where young, queer people could convene and discuss their struggles with gender and sexuality in a place that felt safe.

    And yes, there were also a lot of jokes. Put all that together and you get ianstagram’s Babadook thread, which Vox summed up as “fantastic trolling, a post written to get an earnest reaction from people who truly believe in discussing the merits of The Babadook within an entertaining and slightly absurd new context”.

    A screenshot of the exchange was later shared on Twitter and, soon after, a meme was born. One of the most popular gay Babadook memes is a screenshot of a Netflix menu wherein The Babadook was listed under the LGBT movies category. Users took this to mean that Netflix was acknowledging the Babadook’s queer status, although Netflix never confirmed whether this actually happened or if the photo was just edited.

    But Why The Babadook?

    The horror genre has had a long history of queer-coding villains. From the transgender serial killers in Alfred Hitchcock’s Psycho and Jonathan Demme’s Silence of the Lambs to the obsessive housekeeper in the 1940 film Rebecca.

    Hollywood’s Hay’s Code prohibited films made between 1934 and 1968 from portraying “obscenity”.  This included images of sex, drugs, and homosexuality. Which kept filmmakers from representing queer characters on film. As such, directors would use subtext to depict queer characters and stories.  Often representing them as misunderstood monsters who were condemned by society for their “depravity”. This was done to circumvent the censors and portray the LGBTQ experience at a time when mainstream society deemed queerness taboo.

    Today, horror film directors carry on that tradition, unwittingly or not. And even if Mister Babadook was not purposefully queer-coded by the filmmakers, some might argue that the character lends itself to multiple queer readings.

    For one, Mister Babadook is designed as a rather flamboyant character, with his top hat, heavy makeup, and long, spindly hands. He’s also trapped in a closet, itching to break free – an excellent metaphor for the queer experience, if there ever was one.

    Eren Orbey of The New Yorker wrote that the Babadook’s “new fabulousness seems to align, quite reasonably, with queer readings of better-known beasts such as Frankenstein and Freddy Krueger”.

    “Like those other misunderstood figures, he originated in anonymity, shunned by the traditional folks whom his presence threatened…Fearing the creature’s transgressive influence – his shameless oddity, his aggressive manner – [the film’s mother character] attempts to burn his manifesto, only to learn that attempting to get rid of the Babadook actually enlivens him,” wrote Orbey. “His book reappears on her doorstep, replete with the brash self-assertion of most coming-out anthems.”

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    What The Babadook’s Creator Thinks Of Her Character’s Queer Legacy

    Kent, the film’s director, never really sought to portray her monster as gay. After all, the Babadook was meant to be a manifestation of a widow’s grief and her worst fears about motherhood come to life.

    But when asked to comment on the Babadook’s queer icon status by horror movie site Bloody Disgusting, Kent said that she “loved that story”. “I think it’s crazy and just kept him alive,” she added. “I thought, ‘Ah, you bastard.’ He doesn’t want to die, so he’s finding ways to become relevant.”

    And isn’t that exactly what the gay Babadook icon would do?

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    The Bottom Line

    Though memes come and go, the gay Babadook meme seems to have cemented the monster’s status as a modern queer hero. Whether you like it or not. Remember, the more you deny his existence, the stronger he’ll get.

    So, do you think the Babadook is an LGBTQ icon? Or do you think it’s a ridiculous reach that takes away from the essence of Kent’s original message?

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  • All About The Bisexual Symbol: Meaning And Origins

    All About The Bisexual Symbol: Meaning And Origins

    Pride symbols and flags hold different meanings for different people. For some, they’re a way of communicating one’s identity and the pride they feel for their community. For others, they’re a tangible symbol of the progress made and the work that still needs to be done in the fight for equality. Here, we take a look at the bisexual pride symbol and what it means for the bi+ community.

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    The Bisexual Pride Symbol

    If you look up “bi pride symbol” online, the most popular image you’ll find is an interwoven pair of male and female symbols that form an infinity sign. It usually has a ring in the center that goes through the symbols, as well as the colors pink, purple, and blue at the back – the same colors found on the bi flag.

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    The Bi Flag

    The bisexual flag was created in 1998 by Michael Page. The designer was volunteering for the non-profit BiNet USA when he realized that “there were no suitable bisexual icons that were colorful or prominent enough to gain instant and long-lasting recognition as a flag.” Though there was an existing symbol – the bi angles symbol designed by artist Liz Nania – it hadn’t quite caught on as well as the LGBTQ rainbow flag.

    Page wanted something that could help bi people become more visible “at home, pride events, and political rallies” so he took the colors and overlap pattern found in the bi angles symbol and designed a flag. Pink and blue both take up 40% of the space, while purple takes up 20% in the middle.

    Here’s what each color represents, according to Page:

    Pink: Sexual attraction to the same sex only
    Blue: Sexual attraction to the opposite sex only
    Purple: Sexual attraction to both sexes

    It should be noted that when Page wrote the symbolism for the colors in 2001, he was using an outdated definition of bisexuality. Today, bisexuality is defined as an attraction to people of the same and different genders – not an attraction to both men and women.

    Still, the colors of the flag hold up if we were to interpret them like so:

    Pink: Sexual attraction to the same gender
    Blue: Sexual attraction to other genders
    Purple: Sexual attraction to both people of the same and different genders

    Since combining pink and blue gives you purple, the purple stripe holds a significant meaning – that bisexuals don’t have to choose between one gender or another. Being attracted to more than one gender is part and parcel of the bisexual identity.

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    The Interlocking Symbols

    The interwoven symbols of the bi pride symbol consist of the male ♂symbol, the female ♀ symbol, an infinity symbol ∞, and a ring in the center.

    It’s difficult to trace the origins of this specific symbol to one particular person. But we do know that it evolved from earlier symbols that signified:

    Male bisexuality: A male gender symbol sandwiched between another male gender symbol and a female gender symbol

    Female bisexuality: A female gender symbol sandwiched between another female gender symbol and a male gender symbol.

    These gender symbols trace back to the 16th century when a botanist named Carl Linnaeus first used them to denote the genders of flowers in his books Mantissa Plantarum and Mantissa Plantarum Altera.

    These symbols are actually planetary symbols used by the Ancient Greeks to identify the planets Venus (♀) and Mars (♂), which were said to be governed by the gods Aphrodite and Ares, respectively. The former (the goddess of love, sexuality, and fertility) was commonly associated with femininity. The latter (the god of war, battle-lust, and courage) was associated with masculinity.

    There isn’t much information out there on why the symbols interweave to form an infinity sign or why there’s a circle in the middle. Some theories suggest that this was done to signify the “completeness” of bisexual people. Oftentimes, bisexual people are doubted for their seeming “inability” to choose a “side”. The infinity symbol and circle can perhaps be there to communicate the fact that bisexual people don’t need to – or can’t, for that matter – choose, much in the same way that gay and lesbian people can’t change who they’re attracted to.

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    Other Bisexual Symbols

    Before the bi flag and the interwoven bi pride symbols became the most popular signifiers of bi pride, the bi community had the following symbols:

    The Bi Angles Symbol

    Designed in 1987 by Liz Nania, the bi angles symbol consists of overlapping pink and blue triangles. At the point of overlap, the pink and blue colors form a smaller purple triangle in the middle.

    The use of triangles is a callback to the persecution and imprisonment of gay men in Nazi Germany. At the time, prisoners in concentration camps were classified with color-coded symbols. Jews were assigned yellow stars, criminals were identified with green inverted triangles, and gay men were assigned pink triangles.

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    The Bisexual Double Moon Symbol

    Vivian Wagner designed the bisexual double moon symbol in 1998 as a substitute for the bi angles symbol. The pink triangle symbol was a controversial symbol for some LGBTQ people. They didn’t want to be represented by a symbol associated with violence and persecution. As a result, Wagner offered up an alternative using double moons instead.

    Though not as popular in the US, the bisexual double moon is said to be a popular symbol for the bi community in Germany.

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    Why Bi Pride Symbols Matter

    The bisexual pride symbols in this post are important because they help improve the visibility of the bisexual community. By having a recognized symbol, people who identify as bisexual can feel more connected. These symbols also remind non-bisexuals that there is a large and vibrant bisexual community.

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  • Everything You Need To Know About The Bigender Pride Flag

    Everything You Need To Know About The Bigender Pride Flag

    In a world where most people identify with just one gender, it can feel alienating and confusing to identify with multiple categories. But with the increasing popularity of non-binary labels, more and more people are identifying as genderfluid, pangender, and bigender. If you identify as a bigender, you might be happy to hear that there’s a specific Pride flag for your identity. Read on to learn more about the bigender flag, its colors, origins, and meaning.

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    What Does Bigender Mean?

    Bigender means “a person who can comfortably express either alternative gender role in a variety of socially acceptable environments”. The term was first recorded in the 1980s as “bigenderist” in Abstracts of a Symposium on Gender Issues for the 90s.

    It overlaps with the term “androgyne”, which refers to someone whose expression isn’t strictly feminine or masculine. That said, gender expression and gender identity are two different things – someone’s appearance doesn’t always correlate with how they identify.

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    Bigender vs Bisexual

    “Bigender” and “bisexual” both have the prefix bi- in common, with roots in the Latin word “bis”, meaning “twice” or “doubly”. Bisexuals are sexually attracted to two genders — those of the same gender and those of a different gender. Similarly, bigender people identify as two genders — typically male and female but can also include other nonbinary identities.

    Gender identity and sexual attraction are two different things and do not necessarily affect each other. Bigender people are not automatically bisexuals, and not all bisexuals identify as bigender. For example, a bisexual may identify as cisgender (the gender that they were assigned at birth), just as a bigender person may be attracted to just one gender, multiple genders, or even none.

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    Bigender vs Transgender

    Both bigender and transgender are gender identities. They have in common that both indicate that a person does not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. In fact, bigender falls under the transgender umbrella.

    The difference between bigender and transgender as gender categories is that bigender people identify with two genders, while trans people may identify with just one.

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    The Bigender Pride Flag

    Currently, there isn’t any official bigender pride flag – a quick internet search for “bigender flag” or “bigender pride flag” returns a wide range of results. Here are some of the most popular and widely accepted bigender flags:

    The First Bigender Flag

    The first flag was created by a Tumblr user known as no-bucks-for-this-doe back in 2014. There are two versions of the so-called original bigender flag, meaning that, even at the very beginning, there really wasn’t a single flag.

    The two versions are quite similar, with one version having a plain white stripe in the center and the other featuring a white stripe that transitions to gray. The white or white-gray stripe represents neutral genders, such as agender.

    The flag also has pink shades that represent the female gender and blues that represent the male gender. The purple colors represent nonbinary genders. The pink and blue bands are at the top and bottom respectively to “represent a sense of separation, yet coexistence between masculinity and femininity”.

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    New Bigender Flag Versions

    The original flag was later met with some controversy after its creator was accused of transphobia and abuse. Because of this, many have chosen to distance themselves from the original flag design, leading to the creation of alternative bigender flags.

    Five-Striped Bigender Flag

    One popular alternative is the five-color flag, consisting of pink, yellow, white, purple, and blue stripes. While it isn’t clear who created this particular flag, many bigender people feel that this is more inclusive as it includes yellow, which is associated with the intersex flag and said to represent genders beyond the male and female binary.

    Six-Striped Bigender Flag

    Another bigender flag variation includes the same colors as the five-striped flag but with an additional black stripe. While there’s no given meaning for this addition, most assume that it’s meant to represent asexual and agender people.

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    Other Bigender Flags

    Some in the bigender community don’t feel represented by the current flags and thus design their own versions. Typically, the same colors are used with slight variations in shades and hues. These flags are very personal, often speaking directly to the experience of the person who designed them.

    What Bigender Flag Will You Use?

    While there is no official bigender pride flag, there are several that you can choose from. But if none of them speak to you, go ahead and design your own! After all, gender is very personal – no two people (even those who identify with the same label) experience it exactly the same way.

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